NLP: Neuro-Linguistic Programming by XFMAN"Give me five minutes to talk away my face, and I'll bed the Queen of France.” ... Voltaire “This is a recompilation of information, routines, patterns concerning NLP… The author doesn’t claim he wrote and/or made any of this. The author is only responsible of bring this material together, for educational purpose only. If you choose to continue reading you agree with this terms and conditions. If you disagree with NLP or you love it, share your comments.”… Xfman 1. The patterns discovered were adapted for general communication and effecting change. which arises when the boundaries of meaning are indistinct. can be changed by the application of a variety of techniques. and hence behaviors. building rapport or empathy. . is done to achieve better communication and responsiveness. called "modeling". the practitioner can 'lead' by changing their behavior or perception so the other follows. The use of ambiguity and vagueness distracts the conscious mind as it tries to work out what is meant which gives the unconscious mind the opportunity to prosper. Secondly. Thirdly. to assist in building and maintaining rapport with the client. Rapport The first aspect. 2.Introduction: What is NLP ? Is a set of techniques. The underlying source of these techniques. breathing. Once pacing is established. axioms and beliefs that adherents use primarily as an approach to personal development. Overloading conscious attention The second aspect of the milton model is that it uses ambiguity in language and non-verbal communication. It has been described as "a way of using language to induce and maintain trance in order to contact the hidden resources of our personality". The Milton model has three primary aspects: Firstly. Singer gives examples of the pantomime effect of mere mimicry by some practitioners which does not create rapport. predicates and voice tonality. O'Connor & Seymour in "Introducing NLP" describe rapport as a 'harmonious dance'. to overload and distract the conscious mind so that unconscious communication can be cultivated. a noted hypnotherapist. gestalt therapy and family therapy. It is based on the idea that mind. involves the careful reproduction of the behaviors and beliefs of those who have achieved "excellence". This might also be combined with vagueness. to allow for interpretation in the words offered to the client. an extension of natural skills. body and language interact to create an individual's perception of the world and that perceptions. Rapport is an aspect of 'pacing' or tuning into the client or learners world. There are many concepts and methods: The Milton model is a form of hypnotherapy based on the language patterns for hypnotic communication of Milton Erickson . The early focus of NLP was the study of the underlying patterns in the language and techniques of noted and successful therapists in hypnotherapy. NLP teaches 'mirroring' or matching body language. but warn against mimicry. posture. for example. A direct suggestion merely states what is wanted." The choice of speaking in front of the audience.3. you might find yourself feeling ever more confident". . It might be made even more indirect by saying. you may find it appealing how your feelings have changed. "when you are in front of the audience you will not feel nervous". This example follows the indirect method leaving both the specific time and level of self-confidence unspecified. In contrast an indirect suggestion is less authoritative and leaves an opportunity for interpretation. for example. "when you come to a decision to speak in public. the exact time and the likely responses to the whole process are framed but the imprecise language gives the client the opportunity to fill in the finer details. Indirect communication The third aspect of the Milton Model is that it is purposely vague and metaphoric for the purpose of accessing the unconscious mind. It is used to soften the meta model and make indirect suggestions. "When you are in front of the audience. The theoretical foundations borrow from work related to the these models and disciplines related to language and the mind. While the field of NLP is loosely spread and resistant to a single comprehensive definition. books and audio programs in the form of exercises and principles intended to influence change in self and others. meta model questioning is intended to clarify what has been left out or distorted in communication. what people see. The generality of the Milton model allows the listener to fill in the gaps. On the one hand. the Milton model uses non-specific and metaphoric language. NLP aims to increase choice in the underlying representations so that the individual has more choice and flexibility in the world. including psychology. The actual state someone is in when setting a goal or choosing a course of action is also considered important. communication and personal change. It is claimed that states can be enhanced through various . It was co-founded by Richard Bandler and linguist John Grinder in the 1970s. hence. modeling three successful psychotherapists. Perhaps most generally. Erickson and Fritz Perls. The focus was pragmatic. such as voice tone. cognitive science. which aims to challenge faulty thinking and irrational beliefs.History: Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) is an interpersonal communication model and an alternative approach to psychotherapy based on the subjective study of language. These are used in combination with reframing. linguistics. finding their own solutions and inner resources. Today. A number of techniques in NLP aim to enhance states by anchoring resourceful states associated with personal experience or model states by imitating others. with the aim of discovering what made these individuals more successful than their peers. wishes and desired outcomes. Virginia Satir. action necessary to achieve outcomes. mental representations of problems. When communicating with someone. Milton H. taste and smell in their mind. helping someone see a problem in a new light. such as sensory specific evidence for a goal. feel. gesture. and occupational therapy. rather than just listening to and responding to what a person is saying. On the other hand. hear. workshops. More specifically. making their own meaning from what is being said. variants and applications of NLP are often found in seminars. NLP aims to also respond to the structure of verbal communication and cues outwardly expressed in their nonverbal communication. facial expression and eye movements. their representational systems is crucial to determining state and. There is also a great deal of difference between the depth and breadth of training and standards. Some of the main ideas include: • • • • The way an individual thinks about a problem or desired outcome has an effect on the way he or she will deal with problems and choose a certain course of action. It is claimed that these verbal patterns and non-verbal cues reveal information not typically available when distracted by preconceptions or expectations. there are some common principles and presuppositions shared by its proponents. posture. Some (evidence based) clinical psychologists and researchers have criticized NLP as a pseudoscience or New Age form of psychotherapy.techniques including manipulation of submodalities. But the relationship between NLP and science has been complex and controversial. and it attracted significant interest from researchers and clinicians. Research reviews (1984. . NLP as remained widely supported by its practitioners in the psychotherapy field and has influenced other forms of brief and eclectic interventions. NRC) committee found little empirical basis for these claims or for the assumptions of NLP. partly explained by its world view that was born of pragmatism rather than theory. Few practitioners have presented their clinical data for peerreview and most have had little interest in empirical validation marking a decrease in research interest. In the early 1980s. adjusting the size. 1987) in The Journal of Counseling Psychology and by the National Research Council (1988. brightness and location of visual imagery or equivalent properties of representations in the other sensory modalities. NLP was heralded as an important advance in psychotherapy and counseling. The concept is that by using "anchors" and "weasel phrases.. "What's it like when you feel irresistibly attracted to someone?" The purpose of using embedded commands is to move your listener’s mind in the direction you want it to go without seeming to be intruding or ordering in any way... For example. to put them in a connected or sexual state. which are assumptions implied within verbal structures. "When you feel irresistibly attracted to someone.NLP on Seduction: NLP on Seduction was introduced by Ross Jeffires and the whole Speed Seduction material he created. Embedded command An embedded command is a Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) technique for "planting" a thought (state. "When you" presupposes that the person is going to do the thing or experience the state you describe.. the seducer can remind a woman of these emotional states by his appearance or touch. In the English language. There are many opinions about NLP in seduction.. We will use each one to embed the command "feel irresistibly attracted to someone. do you find yourself compelled to act on it?" What would it be like if. but I will let you decide for your own. in effect. since you really aren't talking about him or her. or experience) within the mind of another person beneath the person’s conscious awareness. a command for the person to imagine the condition or occurrence named or described after it. From that point on.. By talking about a "person" it deflects any resistance on the part of the person. (LOL!) I’m going to avoid the technical and scientific part of NLP where I explain how things work and all the techniques. if YOU WANT TO USE IT or not. The goal is to arouse women with words. Phonetic ambiguity (such as below me vs blow me) and anchoring are used." When you. so it's no longer open to debate or doubt.. now?" A person can. The commands usually possess the word formation of a question. The basis of the original Speed Seduction books and courses is that a person feels the emotions expressed in a story or a linguistically pattern. but I will add routines and patterns that can help you more and can make you realize how things work. "A . This is done through presuppositions. but the tonality of a command. Embedded commands mandate the use of a commanding tonality to be effective. Here are some useful embedded commands. commands end with a down turn in tonality." these states can be anchored to oneself.. "What would it be like if you were to feel irresistibly attracted . process. This weasel phrase is. condition.. it's not like you're trying to get them to do anything. Slow talk... "You might find those pictures start to get bigger and brighter to the point where you feel irresistibly attracted to me!" Invite you to notice. This has the same effect as "you might find" because it implies that what you describe is going to happen. By saying "if.. This phrase assumes the person will do the behavior or undergo the condition you describe. aren't you? "You really shouldn't. By saying "you don't have to". so it's not like you're commanding them to do it! "You might find that as you begin to feel irresistibly attracted to me. since you're saying they don't really have to do it (even though they will!) "You don't have to feel irresistibly attracted.. now!" How surprised would you be to… This implies that the event you describe is certainly going to happen. and the only question is how surprised they'll be by it! "How surprised will you be to find that you are becoming irresistibly attracted to me . "If you were to feel irresistibly attracted. so it's useful both as a connector and an amplifier. You might find. can you feel how (sexually) excited you're getting?" You don't have to.feel irresistibly attracted to me now!". really like!" If you were to. Since you're saying they "shouldn't".. "As you feel irresistibly attracted... it could lead to your acting on it!" To the point where." it deflects resistance while directing the person to imagine the experience...) As you.. It implies that they are going to experience what you describe as something that just happens. now?" ** Important points concerning NLP and Routines: Voice: Deep Tonality. This phrase connects one thing your listener is experiencing with the next thing you want her to experience. feeling or situation you are describing... as you listen carefully to what I say!" You really shouldn't. "invite" has pleasant connotations of it being voluntary and polite! "And I invite you to notice how the warmth of my voice can allow you to feel irresistibly attracted to me. talking with someone they really.. do you think you might feel compelled to act on it?" (There's a second command hidden in that last sentence..... Useful as the start of an intensifying chain of phrases. Plus.. Emphasis in Commands (CAPS in the routines) .. you eliminate resistance.person can feel irresistibly attracted. is a sense of overall safety. anyway. Wouldn't that be a cool way to make a living?" Her: "Yeah! That sounds so interesting. They were interviewing people who make their living designing attractions for amusement parks like Magic Mountain and Disneyland and Universal Studios.. as soon as you GET OFF you want to GET BACK ON again. you can answer with a confused look at first and then a "Well. finally." Her: "Yeah!" You: "And then they said that another part to an ideal attraction is . you FEEL SAFE because you realise nothing bad can really happen. after you're done with your description.it's fascinating." You: "Well.. That even though the attraction make look a little dangerous.. Or rather. so that allows you to FEEL TOTALLY FREE to LET GO AND ENJOY THAT GREAT AROUSAL again and again and again. exactly because of that. I’m going to share great routines and patterns that I have found and known through my life. the girl says with a sly smile "Sounded more like making love" Don't be shocked.. you're CERTAIN YOU'RE SAFE. First.Routines and Patterns: All this said I think we can start talking about some patterns wrote by some famous and not that famous writers. they were talking about the elements that make up the ideal attraction (sp). and your breathing gets faster and you just FEEL THAT AMAZING RUSH all over. And if nothing else comes to mind.". The Discovery Channel Pattern by Ross Jeffries You: "You know. you FEEL A STATE OF HIGH AROUSAL.yeah!!" Ok. You just FEEL SO ENTHRALLED that you want to TAKE THIS RIDE (point to your pecker!) multiple times. Can you (squeeze her hand) feel _that_.. now that you mention it.. don't stiffen up . You: "When you imagine how much fun it is to ride a roller coaster or any .for she loved it regardless. I saw the most interesting show on the Discovery Channel last night. Usually though.. this pattern has been reported to make women cum." Her: "Yeah!" You: "And they said.. They said there are 3 parts to the ideal attraction... out of the blue. The ideal attraction makes your heart beat faster. is pretty close to the way it is?" Her: "Oooh. the most important element. just by reciting it to them. when you EXPERIENCE the ideal attraction. watch..... riding up and down on the roller coaster. going on that roller coaster ride. see what you'd actually see through your own eyes if you were there. Its like as that ride is climbing up and up.... but this time." The Blammo by Ross Jeffries You: Think about someone you really like for a second? Ok? Got that? Now..other kind of amusement park ride . You know that kind of wonderful click right there (right in the center of who you are) that just makes you feel totally drawn to this person and on one hand you feel totally safe and totally comfortable like you were meant to know them and as if you've known them forever. And you know. For example.. afterwards I thought to myself.. who she's neutral about!) You: Now watch .. I want you to remember a time you were on a roller coaster. and sometimes you're screaming you're so turned on. and I want you to see yourself sitting in the roller coaster car. you ever been on a roller coaster? Her: Yeah! You: Ok. (Let her do that) . you can feel your heart pounding with excitement.. Just do that for a few seconds. and try as hard as you can to move it over into the place where you see the picture of the person you do like. isn't that the totally accurate description of your ideal attraction to another person. you feel you're breathing faster and faster. instead of seeing yourself. (Let her do this for a bit) You: Ok . Isn't that need? Her: Yeah! Cool! Wow! (Or any other similar stupid female expostulation!) You: Now see. you reach the top of the ride and then as it crests. Now think of someone who you really don't like at all. (Let her point . (She'll discover that she can't do it) You: See that? It doesn't want to go does it? Because you need a way to sort out who you really like (point to yourself . point to where you seem to see that picture. there's another difference in the way you make pictures in your head. now we're gonna do it again. Ok? Point to where you see that. you just release it in a flood of excitement. why miss an opportunity) from who you don't.. (Let her point) You: Right there? Ok. sometimes you're even gasping and panting you feel the blood rushing through every part of your body and as that excitement and tension is building and building. take that picture of the person you don't like . and by the way if she's one of those people who doesn't dislike anyone. then have her think of someone she could take or leave . (Watch to see she's really in state .one (point to yourself . Close em again. maybe then you can just FEEL PERFECT (fire off the anchor by touching her wrist). You: Ok. close your eyes . as you're remembering that time.. reach over. (Keep holding her wrist as she's experiencing this!) You: Ok. Open eyes. yeah! You: Isn't this interesting? Isn't the mind really cool? Now notice something else: you ever just fall head over heels in love with some. And when those feelings of exquisite pleasure really reach their peak. So...... that if someone is in a certain state.see what you saw. hear what you heard. And just hang on for a minute to how good it feels to FEEL PERFECT... (Repeat the anchor process) You: Ok.. here. breathing quicken. And that feels great. here's the next piece of this and it's called anchoring. you know.. So if I were to say to you. when you repeat that touch they'll go back into that state. point to where you see that picture! (let her point it out) .. never miss that opportunity!) Her: Oh yeah! You: Well. When you see what you actually saw it really helps you to get the feelings of how it actually felt! Her: Wow? This is fascinating!!! You: Isn't it? Now look . wiggle that finger.. of those two. I want you to see what you saw. And go through it again. when she wiggles that finger. etc. one more time (run her through it one more time) You: Ok. and feel how it felt. I find that when I spend time with someone. Open your eyes. now . her face will change... doesn't it? Her: Oh. actually gave you the feelings of being there? Her: The second one!! You: Of course .You: Now.. Now. just wiggle your little finger for me. can you remember a time when you were feeling exquisite pleasure in your body??? Her: mmmm . And when those feelings reach their peak. and you combine that state with a touch or sound. or see what you actually saw. hear what you heard. feel how it felt. the theory behind anchoring is.. yes. touch her wrist and say: You: Purrrfect. and I really start to FEEL THAT SENSE OF INCREDIBLE CONNECTION.. which one felt more real.. try this . because you can see yourself in a memory. 'Different places in the mind' "You know. (point to where she falls in love) As you THINK ABOUT THAT SPACE AS I TALK TO YOU ... yes!! You: In fact. and that really feels perfect (fire anchor) doesn't it? Her: God."No" "I agree. we've been taking for a while now and I feel that you're somebody who understands herself and somebody I can get an honest answer from" . as YOUR HEART BEATS FASTER and your BREATHING INCREASES. Cause I know some guys can be so crude. and you really FEEL THAT TOTAL PERFECTION (fire anchor again) . you see I've come to an understanding about women that a . oh God..You: Ok ..Set up and Challenge "Do you think that most men understand what women really want/need?" Likely answer ... and you were SO HOT AND SO WET YOU WERE BEGGING TO HAVE ME INSIDE YOU?" I can't believe how crude some guys can be!!! Her: Oh. and this guy walks right up to a girl and he says: "Can you IMAGINE HOW GREAT IT WOULD FEEL if I were going down on you.... rich warmth of my voice to just penetrate your thoughts. all night long... and SPREAD THAT WARMTH ALL THROUGH YOUR BODY . Possible theme .... and opening that allows the deep. It's like the other night. exactly the way you like it. I was in a bar . as THE WARMTH OF THAT VOICE JUST TURNS TO A FIRE. I just want to tell you I'm having a great time with you tonight. SPREADING through your chest and down through your body . you might find it's like you want to CREATE AN OPENING FOR MY VOICE .. as you ALLOW MY VOICE TO COME FROM THAT SPACE ... aren't you? (fire off that anchor again!) Her: Oh yeah! You: So watch . and you're really feeling perfect right now.. It sure is better that being with all those jerks out there. please fuck me!!!!! Forbidden Patterns: THE GEMINI / DARK SUN Once in rapport. God. ..... because of the roles that society forces you to play...... .....deep inside.....to feel this presence in that special place. feel all of those hidden parts and desires wake up.lol). the moment...." ".complelling..... or maybe a relationship that you're already in that resticts you.2 questions that I like to ask myself are. I want to step into this special place." "but then on the other hand there's the natural woman. to just right now.. It's an understanding I've come to be really opening my mind.the kind of things you do if no-one were watching and the things you wouldn't even want your best friends to know that you dream about and long for.. realizing that this is the main chance <sp>.. I actually think that inside every woman there are infact 2 women" "On one hand there is the culturally programmed woman...if you wish***** "So. ..... a chance to move in a nude erection. where you ponder fantasies. and the thing about nude erections is that it's not enough to just ponder it..lot of my friends/a lot of men will never get.lol) .and oftentimes what happens is... amazing possibilities. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------ ..to see this face..alive..." "..... (as if that wasn't enough .my understanding is...vivid.. daydreams...just waiting to emerge" ***notice response here and anchor .... you've got to reach out and grab it and act on it right now.what would it be like for a person.....what is it about the way certain people affect us that causes us to think of this person <sp> in that special place.in such a way that no matter how much we try to deny that desire to act....where that voice inside says YES.and yet they are still there. the one with all of the social rules and roles (give a couple of examples here make it sound really opressive and miserable ...right now... with this special person <sp> and explore anything that we can make real together" "and the other question..to hear this voice.......ready.that's the place where you keep you most exciting memories....REAL!..it just takes on a life of it's own.... a person has to lock those parts of them away and keep them safe......willing..... " (you) "yeah. and no matter what you did. it was awful. you know? It's almost as if." .. that you could never find me again. (you) "sweetheart. bring her to another orgasm or whatever and say. a terrible thing happened the other day. you could not open the door and you knew that you would never be able to look into my eyes again and you'd never be able to hear my voice again and you'd never be able to feel my touch again.. -------------------------------------You're fooling around in bed." (you) And at this time you just reassure her." (her answer) Ok. I mean." (point towards the door) "... (you) "you know.. I mean. I mean. you're right. Have some more fun with her. when you think about it in your mind. by the time they got him to hospital he was dead. -*** The ideal setting for the power of the door is right after you've had intercourse and you're in bed with the girl.. My friend was hit by a truck. you know. alright sweetheart. (her answer) "well you know. I'm a real positive person.The Door pattern originated by Alex Domnikov: -*** The Door is aimed at controlling her after you've started sleeping with her. can you imagine. I mean. and you say.. "ok. it slammed shut. you don't know what can happen from day to day. it would be a horrible thing you know when you think about. that's a door. I can't believe it. right here is where she starts going.that no matter even if you were to get that door opened and you were to search. what's that over there?" (point towards the door). The Door creates an anchor for the loss of that pleasure. but. Other patterns that you've used on her have anchored immense pleasure to you. what would happen if I walked out that door and the door closed and as the door closed. "I don't like this door business at all. You really shouldn't think about the door and you really don't have to think about the door." So you go back to playing around with her some more. silly.. still you know. and then then get back into the door and (you) "you know. Then I'll open the door and (you) "oh. you really shouldn't think about this door now and you really don't want to think about this door now. You know. God. You know. I'm just playing with this door again.." (you) "You'll never be able. I'm sorry. (you) "you will never be able to see me again.. walking along the beach. You want to create that sense in her that you can walk out and she'll feel terrible for the rest of here life. could you please turn right and take a look at what's over there. You want to anchor that response. I mean. he says. Get up and she'll say. you can trigger it whenever needed. I just keep on thinking how. all that fun we had together.Then she starts freaking out. all those great times we had together. hand in hand in the moonlight.. Get her good and nice and hot again." Having anchored that sense of loss and pain to the door. we would never be able to do those things again and even if you were to open that door. have a good time with her. Let's stop this door now." At this point you can already see that this is starting to make her feel uncomfortable. You calibrate more on that part of. you would search and you could never find. fool around." and that was the end of the bullshit. ok?" So play around some more. Alex says: If he's talking on the phone and getting any crap from her.. I'm sorry sweetheart." (her answer) "no no I hate this door." I go up to the bedroom door and slam it. "well what are you doing?" (you) "I'm going to the bathroom. joke. I'm sorry. That right there will freak her out. I'm just saying these are just things that are popping into my mind. and he knows the relation of where the door is to her desk." -----------------------------------------------------------------------------The Shadow and The Rising Sun . about life's tragedies. you'll never be able to hear my voice again. "sweetheart. are you trying to upset me?" (you) "oh. .a place of forbidden desire.....just varying degrees on the same spectrum.. This was the concept behind mid-life crisis. while the latter part of our lives is about integration with the shadow and about being whole. and Jung believed that the first part of our lives is about separation from the shadow... about the whole concept of the Yin and Yang. He said that everyone has a Shadow. And then I remembered something that a Psychologist friend of mine said once.. If your shadow is repressed it grows and grows.. Now. and the sun goes down...until at mid-day it changes polarity completely.........light and darkness.black and white. and see the world ... Jung said it was like the Rising Sun. what would it say? Now what if you were to step into your shadow right now..where you really want to experience all the excitement of this moment.. closer and closer to the highest point in its path (midlife) .. And how opposites are really the same thing. it gets higher and higher......until it just takes you over completely. because it brings a sense of balance...and now the opposite is true. So balance then is a good thing. I was thinking about something the other day. and everything that was once true has now changed...experience all that life offers you now. to let go of all the things that had been holding you back before.of possibilities.. maybe even from yourself... as the Sun rises in the sky. "I have to go feed my shadow".. this sense of balance is very important because the concept that whatever you repress grows and begins to spill over into other parts of your life...and I wasn't quite sure what she meant at the time until I read something by Jung. these thoughts that you don't tell anyone about .about hot and cold.and how one is defined in relation to the other.. because in the morning..about polarities. The Shadow is a good thing he believed. where you can experience and imagine these thoughts......She said. We are born completely whole and it isn't until we learn what our current culture tells us what is good and what is bad that we start to both repress and express these parts of ourselves. This is that part of you that you hide from the rest of the world.. Theme builds on the darker side of a person and a sneaky "swish" to get you in there(shadow) Essentially it seems this pattern is best suited to encouraging one to get in touch with their hidden desires (thus connecting emotionally with them) and then eliciting their appearance in an extroverted way. to just let go.... and talk to it. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------You know.... Now what if you were to see your shadow right in front of you....a hidden side.One of the forbidden patterns..and how there are no absolutes... . What would that say about the person that you were before and what does this say about who you are now? .through the eyes of your shadow.