Nature has not got two voices, you know, one of them condemning all day what theother commands. --Marquis de Sade Marquis de Sade Night at Justine’s, 2011 the pain & pleasure of fashion and the fashion of pain & pleasure ++++LOOK BOOK++++ Foreword White-collar conservative flashing down the street, pointing that plastic finger at me, they all assume my kind will drop and die, but I'm gonna wave my freak flag high. --Jimi Hendrix +++ Contents Justine, by Marquis de Sade Marquis de Sade Himself History Masters & Slaves The J. Crew of S&M Shoes Accessories Lace Leather Rubber Blindfolds Collars Reins, Canes, Bloodstains & Chains Heroes The Cage Equestrian Couture Nuns Spanking Evil Queen Gloves Venus in Furs Makeup Ropes Japanese Bondage Pet Play Story of O Black Orchid Perfume Justine, by Marquis de Sade The Marquis de Sade Night idea begins in this book, Justine, by Marquis de Sade, 1791. It’s a dark, opulent response to Valentine’s Day. A pair of nipple clamps on Hallmark. Think black roses and leather petticoats and absinthe. Out with candlelight and romance. Let’s tie each other up instead! +++ The Marquis Himself Donatien Alphonse François, Marquis de Sade (2 June 1740 – 2 December 1814) was a French aristocrat, revolutionary, politician and writer famous for his libertine sexuality and lifestyle. His works include novels, short stories, plays, dialogues, and political tracts. He is best known for his erotic works, which combined philosophical discourse with sexual fantasies. He was a proponent of extreme freedom, unrestrained by morality, religion or law. Sade was incarcerated in various prisons and in an insane asylum for about 32 years of his life. I believe that if evil exists here below. Justine +++ . there would be less evil on this earth. Now I cannot bring myself to fear a God who is either spiteful or weak. I defy Him without fear and care not a fig for his thunderbolts.“I think that if there were a God.” Marquis de Sade. then either it was willed by God or it was beyond His powers to prevent it. A Masochist enjoys receiving pain. +++ . Both European aristocrats pursued erotic activities that took place more in their minds than in the real world. sadism and masochism.History SM stands for two words. Marquis De Sade and Sacher-Masoch. A Sadist enjoys inflicting pain. named after two writers. psychological. The owner/slave relationship is entered into on a consensual basis. The slave's behavior is relatively independent of the top's emotional responses. It is a form of dominance and submission or total power exchange. the pleasure of pleasing his/her Master or Mistress – whether or not the slave's position is pleasant or comfortable. and security of being owned or possessed – and. and physical control in a relationship (if not in his/her life) to another person who voluntarily takes on the responsibility the first person relinquishes. however – that is. met on an ongoing basis. the slave will continue to perform his/her duties regardless of the Master's or Mistress's kindness. A slave is someone who is voluntarily owned: who elects to give up much or all emotional. The participants may be of any gender or sexual orientation. What the slave gets may be as simple as the comfort. harshness. What the Master or Mistress gets from this relationship may come down to something as simple as having his or her desires. as well as his or her needs. of course. Master/slave is a relationship in which one individual (the submissive) gives to another (the dominant) ultimate authority over them. satisfaction. . by someone whose devotion and loyalty need not be questioned.Masters & Slaves In BDSM. or even absence – because ownership invokes and is invoked by his/her extremely deep commitment to the relationship and to his/her part in it. while others who prefer domestic service identify as "service slaves".The limits of the slave contract can vary widely and extend into other areas of BDSM. . Some people opt to be purely "sex slaves". often several years. People usually only enter into a master/slave contract after they have known and played with each other for some time. It can be one of the most difficult relationships in the BDSM world to maintain. Such a relationship is known as total power exchange or TPE. and requires special skills and experience. Some slaves allow their masters or mistresses complete latitude as to the demands that can be placed on them. the father of Lordship and Bondage. +++ .Hegel. . care of 1970s designer.The J. John Sutcliffe. Crew of S&M Season basics! Collected in AtomAge Magazine. and for bondage the personal self will fight with tireless resourcefulness and the most stubborn cunning.“Bondage is the life of personality.” --Aldous Huxley +++ . Katharine Hepburn .Shoes "Without discipline. there's no life at all." . ” ~Marilyn Monroe +++ . but all men owe him a lot.“I don't know who invented the high heel. Accessories . or wear a work of art.One should either be a work of art. ~Oscar Wilde +++ . M.Lace “Shut up and lace up. Heroux "Lace is as much about the space between the threads as it is about the threads themselves." Lori Howe +++ .” L. ˜Marquis de Sade +++ .Leather Social order at the expense of liberty is hardly a bargain. Rubber People sleep peaceably in their beds at night only because rough men stand ready to do violence on their behalf.” --George Orwell +++ . Blindfolds . but as a woman.” -. holding my ground intellectually. His will. my pivot. the command. his desire.“I do not want to be the leader. I want to live darkly and richly in my femaleness. his pleasure. God. always over me. I refuse to be the leader. possessed by the will of a male at his time. I don't mind being told to stand on my own feet. I want a man lying over me. his sexuality the touchstone. artistically. fucked.Anais Nin . his life. not to cling all that I am capable of doing but I am going to be pursued. oh. as a woman I want to be dominated. his bidding. I don't mind working. his work. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson +++ .Thou art to me a delicious torment. This collar could be removed at any time by the submissive with no ill will and the relationship thereby ended. and indicates a deepening relationship in which the submissive is being prepared by the dominant to serve to the standards the dominant wishes. The slave collar is a wedding band. and at this point the submissive is considered a formal slave and owned by the dominant. .Collars The collar of consideration is the pre-engagement ring. Again. the submissive may ask to be released but the break is considered more serious and painful for both parties. The training collar is an engagement ring. ” Jim Morrison."You should stand up for your right to feel your pain. the Doors +++ . Reins. Bloodstains. Chains +++ . Canes. Heroes “It is a rough road that leads to the heights of greatness.” --Seneca +++ . --Klaus Kinski . even if it hurts.The Cage Put a bird cage near the window so that the bird can see the sky? It's much better to look than not to. ” --Mary Wollstonecraft +++ . only seeks to adorn its prison.“Taught from infancy that beauty is woman's sceptre. and roaming round its gilt cage. the mind shapes itself to the body. Equestrian No hour of life is wasted that is spent in the saddle. ~Winston Churchill . It is not enough for a man to know how to ride. he must know how to fall. ~Mexican Proverb +++ . who does not doubt my courage or my toughness.Couture “I. with a deeper instinct. choose a man who compels my strength. who does not believe me naive or innocent.Anais Nin . who has the courage to treat me like a woman. who makes enormous demands on me.” -. I acted and behold. I awoke and saw that life was service. service was joy." .Couture "I slept and dreamt that life was joy.Rabindranath Tagore . Benjamin Franklin +++ .Couture "The eye of the master will do more work than both his hands." . " . without any limit to your power.Nuns "I want to put myself absolutely at your mercy for good or evil without any condition.Leopold von Sacher-Masoch . “It's the good girls who keep diaries.” --Tallulah Bankhead +++ . the bad girls never have the time. For when I used to sing those songs. And Mama took me on her knee And I. My Papa blankety blanked.Spanking “I cannot sing the old songs I sang long years ago. alas! was spanked” --Eugene Field . And yet I cannot say I'm sad that time hath changed us so. she was a perfect mistress of her art. 28 Charlotte Street. and was.. . moreover.. a thorough woman of business.The queen of her profession was undoubtedly Mrs. Portland Place. for she amassed during her career a considerable sum of money. Theresa Berkley. of No. understood how to satisfy her clients. at her shop. +++ . made of thick sole-leather. and bibliographer. furze brushes. a dozen different sizes of cat-o'-nine-tails. whipped. and tortured till he had a belly full. and during the summer. Her supply of birch was extensive. writer. Thus. filled with a constant supply of green nettles. some with needle points worked into them. holly-brushed. whoever went with plenty of money. a glass and China vases. so that it was always green and pliant: she had shafts with a dozen whip thongs on each of them. battledoors. She also invented the Berkley Horse. Holly brushes. Above quote by Henry Spencer Ashbee (21 April 1834 – 29 July 1900) was a book collector. leather straps like coach traces. fustigated. called butcher's bush. with inch nails run through to docket. phletbotomized. curry-combed. butcher-brushed. furze-brushed. and currycomb tough hides rendered callous by many years flagellation. a prickly evergreen. and kept in water. needle-pricked. could be birched. various kinds of thin bending canes. notorious for his massive. clandestine three volume bibliography of erotic literature written under the pseudonym of Pisanus Fraxi."Her instruments of torture were more numerous than those of any other governess. with which she often restored the dead to life. an automatic flagellation machine still used in some S&M parlors to this very day. scourged. stinging-nettled. half-hung. Evil Queen . – Freud +++ .Sadism is all right in its place. but it should be directed to proper ends. Rumi +++ ." .Gloves "There are a hundred ways to kneel and kiss the ground. Venus in furs First published in 1870. The novel describes the sexual obsessions of Severin von Kusiemski. a European nobleman with the desire "to be the slave of a woman." . Venus in Furs gained for its author both notoriety and a degree of immortality when the word "masochism"--derived from his name--entered the psychiatric lexicon. Venus in Furs is a passionate and powerful portrayal of one man's struggle to enlighten and instruct himself and his world in the realm of desire. and Arthur Schnitzler. +++ . Thomas Mann. Not simply a lurid tale of sexual perversion. Influential on Freud. Venus in Furs remains a classic literary statement on sexual submission and control. nor a Victorian fantasy of antique decadence.Severin finds his ideal of voluptuous cruelty in the merciless Wanda von Dunajew. Makeup . . "Power is the ultimate aphrodisiac." – Henry Kissinger +++ . +++ .Ropes Tie Me Up. Tie Me Down. and between 7m-8m long). bakujojutsu. but sometimes as small as 4mm. . usually with several pieces of thin rope–often jute and generally around 6 mm in diameter. In Japanese.Japanese Bondage Kinbaku (緊縛?) means 'tight binding Kinbaku-bi (緊縛美?) which literally means 'the beauty of tight binding'. and senyojo jutsu) is a Japanese style of sexual bondage or BDSM which involves tying up the bottom using simple yet visually intricate patterns. this rope is known as 'asanawa'. Kinbaku (also Sokubaku. In this way the rope becomes an extension of the tier’s hands and is used to communicate. Western styles are usually more symmetrical and may sometimes only marginally restrict the bottom's ability to move. Japanese bondage is very much about the way the rope is applied and the pleasure is more in the journey than the destination. Shibari (縛り?) is a Japanese word that literally means "to tie" or "to bind". Sometimes. Japanese bondage (kinbaku/shibari) is said to differ from Western bondage in that the bottom is almost always immobilized or restrained to gain pleasure from being under the pressure and strain of the ropes. +++ . are employed to heighten the psychological impact of the bondage. often squeezing the breasts or genitals. or may be applied strictly for decorative purposes. It is used in Japan to describe the artful use of twine to tie objects or packages. often giving choice of two 'evils' (two in different ways uncomfortable positions to chose between by moving in the ropes). The aesthetics of the bound person's position are also important: Japanese bondage is distinguished by specific katas (forms) and aesthetic rules. asymmetric and often intentionally uncomfortable positions.The word shibari came into common use in the West at some point in the 1990s to describe the bondage art Kinbaku. while the Western practice of bondage often focuses more on the immobilization. ponyplay. ponyism. one or more of the participants takes on the role of a real or imaginary animal in character. or pup-play). in a sexual context. or caretaker.Pet play Animal roleplay may be either a non-sexual or an erotic sexual roleplay (when it may also be called petplay. +++ . or. may take the role of rider. including appropriate mannerisms and behavior. and sometimes a partner will act as another animal. trainer. kittenplay. In its erotic sexual roleplay form. and taught to be constantly available for oral. Despite her harsh treatment. chained. whipped. vaginal and anal intercourse. . made to wear a mask. Story of O is a tale of female submission about a beautiful Parisian fashion photographer. and her permission is consistently sought. branded. O. pierced. O grants permission beforehand for everything that occurs. who is blindfolded.Story of O 1954: Published in French by Jean-Jacques Pauvert. +++ . Black Orchid It’s the state flower of Justine’s for the night +++ . And the perfume +++ . Safe words Justine’s Safe words: Bev Nap Mocktail Share plate Big top Well gin +++ . an appropriate response would be. • The only person who has the right to give you orders is someone to whom you have consensually surrendered control. Sir. ASK. • . do your best to comply immediately. If such a person gives an order.Rules of Public Master-Slave Etiquette by Gloria Brame Call a dominant by the title of her or his choice (e. Wait politely until the dominant greets you or initiates a handshake. Ma'am. "Yes. Mistress. stand too close to him or her.) If you don't know what his or her preference is.. • You don't need to act like a mouse but it is respectful to periodically lower your eyes in deference to the dominant. • Don't lunge at a dominant. Ma'am. Master. or thrust your hand out in greeting.g. Sir" or "Yes. etc." • When an order is given. ) • • Do not assume you may take a chair beside your dominant unless she or he has already discussed this with you.. If the dominant gives you no instruction. Clearly he or she is not a good one. . even if he or she is a dominant. either use your safe word (if you have one).. • Offer to fetch a drink for the dominant. • Offer to carry the dominant's coat. (Note: some dominants may require that you kneel in attendance. an appropriate response would be. • Open doors for the dominant and wait until she (or he) passes through before following.". • Have a lighter or matches handy so you can light a dominant's cigarette or cigar. Avoid starting requests with phrases such as "I want" or "I need. Wait until your dominant tells you where to sit.• If the order pushes a limit. may I have permission to. so that the dominant is slightly in front of you. equipment bag." Instead. politely ask where she or he would like you to be. or other cumbersome object. ask for the privilege by starting with: "May I please" or "Mistress/Master. • If the dominant does smoke. • Basic rule of thumb: if someone is rude to you. you are under no obligation to be polite to them. • Keep an eye on the dominant's beverage glass and offer to get a refill whenever it is empty. or tell the dominant that you are having a problem and need to talk to him or her. discreetly empty the ashtray every so often. • If a dominant wanna-be tries to order you around. • When standing beside your dominant. make sure to stand just behind his or her elbow. "I have not consented to this." • Anyone who tries to pressures you into service or tells you it is expected of all submissives should be avoided. +++ . • No matter how attractive another dominant may be.• • If you are in a club or at a party. • Do not argue in public with your dominant. ask permission to go. if you've received permission to do something. control yourself and do not flirt or otherwise express untoward interest in someone else. do not charge off like an animal just released from a cage. If something exciting is going on which you are dying to watch. For example. ask your dominant for permission to discuss it privately and out of earshot of the crowd. It gives others the impression that you couldn't wait to leave your dominant's side. Even if you are not yet collared or formally owned. Always remember to say "thank you" for every privilege your dominant grants you. you will significantly reduce your chances by acting shallow. if you wish to become owned. or if you see people you know. when you are in the company of your dominant. never bolt away from your dominant's side or give the impression that you would rather be anyplace else but next to your dominant. If you are genuinely upset about something which cannot wait until you get home. “I shut my eyes in order to see.” --Paul Gaugin "Sex is as important as eating or drinking and we ought to allow the one appetite to be satisfied with as little restraint or false modesty as the other. 2011! We’ll celebrate the right to use our imagination.” Marquis de Sade .Endnote See you at Justine’s on February 12.