BCCT 2012 Version

CFC youth for christ TRAINING TRACKS FOR COUPLE COORINATORS Basic Couple Coordinators’ Training 2012 Revised Edition Manila, Philippines Table of Contents BASIC COUPLE COORDINATORS’ TRAINING MANUAL 2012 Revised Edition Chapter 1 THE YFC BCCT GUIDELINES AND DYNAMICS Rationale 9 Overview 9 Objectives 10 Program Schedule 10 Summary of the Sessions and Workshops 11 Guidelines and Reminders in Conducting the Activity 11 Chapter 2 THE SESSIONS AND WORKSHOPS Session 1: Understand. Affirm. Pastor Session Dynamics 15 Expanded Outline 19 Session 2: Called to be Couple Coordinators Session Dynamics 28 Expanded Outline 30 Workshop 1: Conducting One-on-Ones with the Youth Workshop Dynamics 41 Workshop Outline 44 Workshop 2: Leading a Prayer Meeting Workshop Dynamics 48 Workshop Outline 50 Mock Prayer Meeting 55 Annexes Annex A: Sample Problem Tree and Sample Solution Tree Annex B: 100% Free Concept Paper Annex C: 3-Year Pastoral Formation Track Annex D: The YFC Household Topic Manual Guide 57 58 62 67 Annexes Annex E: The YFC Chapter Assembly Manual Topic Guide 72 Annex F: The YFC Leaders Assembly Manual Topic Guide 76 Annex G: Situations for the One-on-One Workshop 80 Annex H: Worship 82 Annex I: The YFC Area Levels of Growth and Structure 84 The YFC Basic Couple Coordinators’ Training (BCCT) Module is then implemented so that the YFC CCs will understand and embrace the YFC ministry – its purpose and vision. and the different programs that give life to its mission. Also. Overview T he YFC Basic Couple Coordinators’ Training (BCCT) is a whole day activity conducted for all YFC Couple Coordinators: whether they have been serving as YFC CCs for a time already. this serves as a “pre-requisite” for the appointment of YFC CCs. In this way. or are newly appointed CCs coming from a different service in CFC and/or the other Family Ministries. and to generally equip and empower the CCs in their service. Hence. The BCCT provides the basics of being YFC Couple Coordinators: to instill in the CCs the mission and vision of Youth For Christ. Their stewardship is an integral part in the pastoral and developmental formation of YFC members. to lay out everything that there is to know and do in the YFC Ministry. They are given an opportunity to be the models and guides as to how the youth can live Christ-centered lives. the BCCT is the basic training . while at the same time bringing the youth back into their homes as sources of unity in their respective families. love. and peace.CHAPTER 1 THE YFC BCCT GUIDELINES AND DYNAMICS Rationale T he Youth for Christ (YFC) Couple Coordinators (CCs) play a very fundamental role in the fulfillment of the CFC Vision through the young. being their mentors especially in times of challenges and difficulties. the YFC CCs become instruments of joy. The direct interaction that they have with the Youth for Christ under their care makes it possible for them to be parent-figures that these YFC can look up and run to outside of the home. it is done at the Provincial Level. Cluster Couple Coordinators’ Training. To be provided with basic information about the YFC ministry. Duration 30 mins. 2. Pastor. and Program Couple Coordinators’ Training. Also. A session introducing the real situation and environment affecting the modern-day youth that the CCs will be handling. a new batch of Training Modules will be implemented specific to the CCs’ area of service: Chapter Couple Coordinators’ Training.m. Team Leader A designated YFC CC who leads the whole activity. Affirm. Pastor. Break Session 2: Called to be Couple Coordinators Lunch Break 12:45 – 1:00 15 Worship 1:00 – 1:30 30 Icebreaker/Game 1 After the BCCT. Also. Session 2: Called to be Couple Coordinators A pastoral session empowering the couples as husband and wife. with help and support in some roles by YFC leaders. It can be conducted on a Saturday or Sunday. All these modules put together comprise the YFC COUPLE COORDINATORS’ TRAINING KIT. For Philippine Missions. And for International Missions. Description and Roles of the Service Team (Note: The service team for the BCCT should be Couple Coordinators. Since . whichever day is not in conflict with any YFC activity. Affirm. it is done at the National/ Regional/Country Level depending on the Area’s Level.basi c coupl e coor di nat o r s ’ tr a i n i n g m a n u a l 10 requirement for all YFC CCs1. Workshop 2: Leading a Prayer Meeting A workshop on learning the basic skills and process of leading a prayer meeting. For Metro Manila. a) To develop the CCs’ pastoral skills in taking care of the young. a session on learning the roles and responsibilities of a Couple Coordinator in light of the service structure of YFC. Program Schedule T he BCCT is a whole day. eight (8) hour activity.) 1. To be provided with instructional tools for the understanding of the roles and responsibilities of an effective YFC Couple Coordinator. 1 hour 2:30 – 2:45 15 2:45 – 3:45 1 hour 3:45 – 4:00 15 1. Objectives ch a p te r 1 11 1:30 – 2:30 p. Guidelines and Reminders in Conducting the Activity A.15 Activity Registration Opening Worship Icebreaker/Game Session 1: Understand. Workshop 1: Conducting One-on-Ones with the Youth A workshop on learning the proper process of conducting one-on-ones with the youth members. a session on understanding the basics of serving in YFC: the fundamental technical know-how. Sector Couple Coordinators’ Training. The BCCT is conducted at the top level YFC area. it is done at the Sector Level. 30 30 9:30 – 10:15 45 10:15 – 10:30 15 10:30 – 11:30 1 hour 11:30 – 12:45 pm Workshop 2: Leading a Prayer Meeting Summary of the Sessions and Workshops For the participants: Time 8:00 – 8:30 am 8:30 – 9:00 9:00 – 9:30 Workshop 1: Conducting One-onOnes with the Youth Break 1. and the role of their becoming a solid pastoral team as Couple Coordinators. Closing Prayer TITLE SUMMARY Session 1: Understand. ch a p te r 1 7. 6. they also take care of the food and the materials needed for the training. or the Team Leader is a CC that is part of the YFC top-level Core Group (e. As he facilitates the BCCT. B. as well as contacting his fellow CCs prior to the scheduled BCCT and ensuring their attendance. Provincial Couple Coordinator for Philippine Missions. The Team Leader looks for the venue and oversees the physical preparations. they help the Team Leader and Assistant Team Leader in followingup their fellow attending CCs to ensure complete/maximum attendance of the participants. 2. Assistant Team Leader A CC who aids the Team Leader in ensuring attendance of all the CCs. 5. and reflection during the sessions. 4.g. gathering. or depending on the program schedule. Their profiles are in the session dynamics. and National/Regional/ Country Coordinator for International Missions. like the Over-all Sector Couple Coordinator for Metro Manila. the Team Leader is preferably the top-level CC. wraps up/ summarizes after every session and connects and processes all the points of the talks together. They can be YFC leaders. takes care of the food preparation. he makes sure that all the objectives are met. Icebreaker/Game Facilitators CCs who conduct the icebreakers/games to keep the participants alert and receptive. and the budgeting and finance. materials needed for the sessions. sees to it that everything is done on time. Checklist οο Venue οο Tables and chairs οο Sound system οο LCD Projector οο White Screen οο Laptop οο Registration sheets οο YFC Brochure οο Fact Sheets per couple (copies located in Appendices): 3. Sector Core Group or Provincial Core Group). Worship Leaders CC brothers that are designated to lead the worship: one Worship Leader in the morning and one Worship Leader in the afternoon. Speakers Deliver the Sessions/Workshops.12 basi c coupl e coor di nat o r s ’ tr a i n i n g m a n u a l the BCCT is conducted at the top level YFC area. Prior to the BCCT. In coordination with the Assistant Team Leader. Either that. 13 • Participants’ Handouts of the Sessions and Workshops • 100% Free Concept Paper • Answering The Cry of The Poor (ANCOP) Concept Paper • The 3-Year Pastoral Formation Track • The YFC Household Manual Topic Guide • Overview of the YFC Chapter Assembly Manual Topic Guide • Overview of the YFC Leaders’ Assembly Manual Topic Guide • Worship • Levels of Growth οο Situations for the One-on-Ones (see Appendix G) οο List of icebreakers/games οο Lunch and snacks (depending on the agreed scheme of the Team) οο Bond papers . Music Ministry Plays selected songs and motivates participation during the worship. Registration Team CCs who are in-charge of the registration sheets and the collection of registration fees. Must be someone who could share his own experiences in serving with the young. Pray to the owner of the harvest that he will send out workers to gather in his harvest. To understand the nature of our young generation. because they were worried and helpless. Can also be someone who is a model “family-man” with children (either still young or already grown-up). Session One of the Basic Couple Coordinators’ Training SESSION DYNAMICS “As (Jesus) saw the crowds. so that he can connect the session with how he is raising/has raised his own children. So he said to his disciples. Opening Video: . but there are few workers to gather it in. and National/Regional/ Country Coordinator for International Missions. in lieu of the environment that they are living in. To give a basic introduction of the YFC ministry. Speaker’s Profile The Family Ministries Head.basi c coupl e coor di nat o r s ’ tr a i n i n g m a n u a l 14 οο Colored cards (¼ . PASTOR. AFFIRM.) CHAPTER 2 UNDERSTAND. Provincial Couple Coordinator for Philippine Missions. Dynamics 1. or the Top YFC Couple Coordinator of the area: the Over-all Sector Couple Coordinator for Metro Manila. like sheep without a shepherd.size bond paper) • • Three (3) different colors per participant -- red cards (two pieces per couple) -- blue cards (two pieces per couple) -- yellow cards (one piece per couple) Another set of green colored cards οο Marker/felt-tip pen/pentel pen. ‘The harvest is large. 3. 2. To see the importance of Couple Coordinators (CCs) in the lives and the future of today’s youth.’” (Matthew 9:36-38) Objectives For the participants: 1. his heart was filled with pity for them. at least one (1) piece per three (3) couples οο Any adhesive tape οο Manila paper (Please refer to the Talk/Workshop outlines for when and where specific materials are needed. corruption. • The Second Segment will showcase how man – especially the youth of today – neglects that future through vices.). cheating in school just to pass. The Problems – the negative statements on the yellow cards – will be converted into positive statements as Solutions. • The First Segment will show the original plan of God for the World. with one yellow card corresponding to one red card/negative statement. and an overall negative perversion of values. the Third Segment will open with a small light forming into words: “How far have we known them? Do we truly care? Are we all ready to love?” Then a glimpse of a Couple counseling. “STOP!” Then darkness comes in. Colored cards (¼ . Reflection Materials Needed 1. blue. These pictures should be many and should move fast across the screen. are used to write down the potential problems or common challenges that are encountered when trying to solve a negative scene that they cited from the video. This leads them to realize that they can do the same for the young. 3. selfishness. The Speaker need not consider all the cards if the participants are many. The video will show the disoriented views that most young people have nowadays in handling the different aspects of their lives (e. • The Speaker then sets up the “Solution Tree” in variance with the Problem Tree. asking them to point out one by one the basic issues/struggles of the young as seen on the video.Affirm. The Speaker then collects all the yellow cards and pastes it on the Manila Paper/Brown Paper. and helping the young is seen. • The pre-produced video (3 – 5 minutes) will be divided into three (3) segments. which will then be written on GREEN CARDS. 2. violence. and blue for positive scenes. The speaker asks the participants to recall two (2) positive and two (2) negative scenes that they saw on the video. or the materials needed below).Pastor. Example of Problem being transformed into Solution: Problem (written on yellow card) “Fewer youth go to church. Talk Proper 4. guiding. the Speaker can be the one to write the solution cards.g. and yellow colored cards to the participants (refer to the checklist above. with the “higher level” problem above the other “lower level” problems (See sample Problem Tree in Annex A). and write them down/state them on the following corresponding colored cards: red for negative.” Solution (written on green card) “Encourage more youth to go to church. To cut short the time for this portion. until the entire segment ends by flashing the statement ‘Understand. The last part of this segment will show a youth shouting. immorality. in order to bring about a determination in solving any problem. and how He intended it to be. The segment will showcase God presenting His promise to the prophet Jeremiah in the verse Jeremiah 29:11-14: a promise of a future full of abundance and hope. and pasted up as the corresponding Solution Tree. Pictures of Couple Coordinators having fun with YFC during conferences and activities then follow.size bond paper) οο Three (3) different colors per participant -- Red cards (two pieces per couple) for writing down the negative scenes -- Blue cards (two pieces per couple) for writing down the positive scenes .’ • The whole exercise should be conducted within fifteen (15) minutes. etc. entering into a romantic relationship for all the wrong reasons. on the other hand. • The goal of the activity is to make the Couple Coordinators realize that any negative observation should be seen as a challenge. Opening Activity: The Solution Tree • 17 The speaker comes in after the video and launches into an interactive discussion with the participants. The speaker then calls on the service team to distribute the red.basi c coupl e coor di nat o r s ’ tr a i n i n g m a n u a l 16 ch a p te r 2 Video Profile: • The yellow colored cards. arranging the cards into a pasted up “Problem Tree”.” (See sample Solution Tree in Annex A) • Coming from the darkness. Marker/felt-tip pen/pentel pen. Laptop 6. their eagerness to know things. Session One of the Basic Couple Coordinators’ Training 3. at least one (1) piece per three (3) couples. We have to understand. we need to find a way to relate and deal with them. we are given a special task to take care of our YFC members. It is our mission to bring our youth to Christ. White Scree Introduction T he video that we saw and the problem tree that we made reminds us of the many challenges that our young people are currently facing. • They are in that stage wherein they are transitioning from childhood to adulthood. this day and age is very different from when we were still in their shoes. . This is the scenario that our young people are in. CHAPTER 2 UNDERSTAND. decision-making. Understanding the Youth T o effectively serve our youth. PASTOR. Manila paper 5. We will then see the factors that affect their emotions. In order to do this. as influenced by the environment where they are living in. 2.basi c coupl e coor di nat o r s ’ tr a i n i n g m a n u a l 18 -- Yellow cards (one piece per couple) for writing down the challenges/problems encountered when looking for a solution to the negative scenes written on the red cards οο The Speaker will be given a set of green colored cards for the possible solutions. and their wanting to explore and get a hold on what others have already experienced or are experiencing – but they themselves haven’t yet gone through. affirm. LCD Projector 7. and our Youth For Christ members are no exception in experiencing it. and daily purposes and ambitions. this is where we also come in. Any adhesive tape EXPANDED OUTLINE 4. from dependence to independence. AFFIRM. Therefore. it is essential that we first comprehend and appreciate the grounds from which they are coming from. and nourish them as God’s gifts to us. Although admittedly we have already experienced (and surpassed) the many things that they are going through right now. and pastor. As Couple Coordinators (CCs). This explains their curiosity. This sometimes brings about a feeling of lack: that they are incomplete. they see our corrections as irrelevant. With sources of brokenness even in their own families. we need to be aware of these and patiently reach out to them: mentoring them with parental love and guidance. the youth can tend to look for other sources of affirmation. They start engaging in recreational activities such as hanging out with friends. • Entering into romantic relationships is a whole new area that forms part of the youth’s exciting life. or being too eager to please others. Our new Vision in Youth For Christ states: “Young people. and we do that as a family involving the young.” More often than not. In this way. This leads to either apathy and complacency. These are only some examples that – when left unchecked – can become sources of distraction and/or addiction. Hence. It was in this gathering of about 200 YFC leaders and Couple Coordinators from all over the world that our new YFC Vision was launched. At times. Rooted in the CFC Vision. Studies become part of the routine that young people find unexciting. playing video games. Our vision in CFC is about relationships. history was made during the second YFC Global Leaders’ Summit (GLS) held last August 12-14. love. at One Esplanade. and we will be able to appreciate more our role in the lives of the youth. our YFC Vision defines us as Couple Coordinators. impress on them our advice. Manila. and peace. or even unfair. Philippines. Rooted in our Vision A s YFC Couple Coordinators that are part of the greater family of Couples for Christ. Through this vision we will discover our identity as CCs. love. so they tend to either feel less of themselves. And. while at the ch a p te r 2 21 same time bringing them back into their homes as sources of unity in their respective families. guidance. Moved by the Holy Spirit. Couples for Christ is a united global community of Family evangelizers That sets the world on fire With the fullness of God’s transforming love. this YFC Vision is unique only to our Ministry. Also – brought about by many reasons – some grow up in a home with only one parent. being and bringing Christ wherever they are. or with both parents absent. in order to divert themselves from other aspects in their lives that make them feel unloved (e. since some do not feel loved in their family). 2011. Most enter them. Our roles are embedded on our Vision. They become increasingly attracted to their peers who – just like them – are open to trying out new things.g. Our tasks as CCs – which will be discussed deeper and further in Session Two – find its anchor in the Vision of the CFC-YFC community. These characteristics play a major part in our YFC’s daily journey. and “tried and tested ways. • Part of the structures that they rebel against is the idea of school itself. One with the Catholic Church. Blessed to witness Christ’s love and service. renewing the face of the Earth. and the roles that Christ would . and security outside of the home. some of the youth are affected when their parents spend less time with them due to the demanding needs and pressures of work.” Straightforward yet deep. Some enter into relationships out of curiosity. their parents. restrictive. sometimes they feel that they are unloved or unappreciated. encompassing and yet personal. It impels us to be witnesses of God’s awesome love. We want to bring God in the center of the lives of our youth.basi c coupl e coor di nat o r s ’ tr a i n i n g m a n u a l 20 • • They are still living with their parents and growing up with brothers and/or sisters. We can even become the parent-figures of our youth in the YFC community. however. or become grossly over-competitive. their families are also adjusting to the changes brought about by this transition. Others want to feel “whole”. oftentimes becoming rebellious especially when we. As Couple Coordinators. This attitude leads them to look for other things to do that are “more enjoyable” for them. Our Vision in Couples for Christ states: Families in the Holy Spirit. They are yearning to establish their own identities. Going further. Some get compared with their siblings. and can eventually lead to vices and even serious sin. or the urge to want to experience the surge of emotions that go with it. This basically is the direction where we want our YFC to go also. we root ourselves to where our community is being led by God. we the YFC CCs become instruments of joy. and surfing Internet sites for entertainment purposes. depending on the situation. since the brokenness in their family makes them feel incomplete. mission. we are called to be: 1. and conferences. As YFC. . Fun. dreams. and lovingly molded after His own Heart. Freedom and Friendship. work. and in being good sons and daughters in their families. Champion of the Poor We want all our YFCs to be involved with our mission of building the Church of the Poor through our ANCOP (Answering The Cry Of the Poor) Program. We see to it that they choose to live a life of Holiness: living how Jesus lived. We want all our YFCs to be active in their homes: doing their responsibilities and acting out their roles as members of their own respective families. ch a p te r 2 23 5. This is strengthened by the YFC Basics.basi c coupl e coor di nat o r s ’ tr a i n i n g m a n u a l 22 want us to imbibe. which reflect our original identity of being sons and daughters of God. and building the hopes. YFC Basics A. and help us focus on our tasks as YFC CCs. households. Patriot We want all our YFCs to be concerned and make an effort in building up their country. Faith allows them to see God’s goodness and plans for their lives. We want them to be vessels of peace and advocates of love in promoting better relationships. 6. We want them to be aware of the things that are happening in their society. It is fundamental in our activities because it opens the YFC’s hearts and minds to believe in and respond to God’s love. prayer meetings. We want them to excel in their studies. 4. Thus. That is why we impart this great virtue to the youth. These are therefore the fundamentals that our YFC Manuals are grounded on. It is the kind of faith that can move people to trust and believe in the transforming love of God. Single-Minded For God We want all our YFCs to fix their eyes on Jesus. making them their own. 2. We want them to take active part in restoring the dignity of the poor. the same Spirit that gives the Virtue of Faith. illicit behavior. and fellowship are all rooted in Christian culture. assemblies. Faith strengthens their desire to discover and know the Lord more through sessions/talks. The YFC Seven Identities (7 IDs) Our goal for all our YFC members is to embrace the YFC Seven Identities (7 IDs). We want all our YFCs to carry these identities. 1. and future of their less fortunate brethren. formation. 100% Free We want our YFCs to stand out and choose a lifestyle of being 100% Free from any vices. Model of Excellence We want our YFCs to be excellent in everything that they do. 3. 7. imbibing it as a need to carry Jesus – His character and His deeds – through words and actions in their everyday lives. We inspire the youth to make this their top priority. We want them to experience the fullness and beauty of God’s plan for them as men and women made in His Image and Likeness. Faith Our Community moves with the Holy Spirit. worship. narrowed down into our unique YFC Four Fundamentals (4 Fs): Faith. and exhort them to reach out to their fellow countrymen as Citizens of God. Source of Unity in the Family We want all our YFCs to be a source of healing to whatever brokenness their families might be experiencing. YFC Four Fundamentals (4 Fs) Our understanding and affirmation of the young adults need to be sustained with a clear vision of righteous life. leading them to a closer. B. and following His values and acts of kindness. and anything that may harm their bodies as a temple of the Holy Spirit. the YFC ministry and its varied activities. Missionary We gear our YFCs to be missionaries by heart: allowing them to be true evangelizers. and empowering them to introduce Christ to everyone. Being a model of excellence means we give our best and seek to be our best in every aspect of our life. personal relationship with Him. which will enhance our living out of the YFC Vision. TORCH Program TORCH (TOwards Renewal in CHrist) is the support program for the children of CFC Mission Core (MC) members – who are themselves servant-leaders of the CFC Community. 3. and to live their lives freely. 4. 4. healthy relationships with one another. Campus Based Program The vision of the Campus Based Program is to have “A renewed and united society in Christ through the campuses. Friendship Our YFC activities allow the youth to develop and build genuine friendships. TORCH becomes a real asset and sure foothold for the youth to be trained and developed as leaders in the other YFC . As they become the front-liners of the YFC Vision. This then provides a means of bringing God closer to not only the students. They want to feel that they have a place in the world: to stand out and be different. 3. but to the faculty members. and living in union with Christ. we allow them to experience fun through living a life in Christ. These are grouped into 5 YFC Programs. parishes and dioceses. vices. and anything that might destroy their relationship with God and the people around them. The objective of the program is to work towards making the ch a p te r 2 25 neighborhoods of the youth and the different locales they interact with to be a better place to live in. lies. poverty. or insecurities that may build around friendships nowadays. However. YFC models the kind of friendship that reflects Jesus Christ. establishing the Program as a School Club or a Recognized Organization. school employees. This is done through the High School Based Program’s thrust of “Bringing God’s High to the Schools. the world teaches them a different concept of freedom. disturbing situations. YFC opens opportunities for the young to experience fun in a clean and Spirit–filled way. a life that is submitted to God. That is why they invest highly in activities that will allow them to experience the fulfillment of having fun. as follows: 1. peace. YFC Programs Implementation of YFC activities is done through various Programs that cater to wherever the youth are found: whether in the neighborhood or local communities.” It seeks to introduce the ministry as the best alternative peer environment for the students. to express themselves. It is important for the youth to enjoy every aspect of their life. and parents who are involved as well. Freedom The youth yearn to be heard. Community Based Program “Renewal in Christ through Raising Faith Communities” is the YFC Community-Based Program’s goal and calling.” YFC Campus Based is a program that targets university and college students in the hope of raising them to become responsible and Christian servant-leaders in the near future. as well as with the Parishes and Dioceses. Though the world may present different options and definitions of fun. That is why YFC wants them to realize True Freedom: one that is liberated from sin. Hence. they are seen to continue the Mission and Vision of Couples For Christ when their time would come. In this ministry. schools. The YFC in this program seek to reach out and partner with the private and public sectors. and a deeper intimacy with God. 2. Fun The young generation relishes in the atmosphere of Fun. The Program aims to motivate the students and the entire campus community to be committed in living God’s righteousness and holiness through a life of love and service. The Program believes that the CFC leaders can “pass on the torch” of responsibility and service to God and country to their children. in order to support the mission of uniting a community through love. thus moving them to share His love and generosity to others. High School Based Program The goal of the High School Based Program is to bring Youth For Christ to Secondary Schools/High Schools. Our YFC activities encourage them to develop their capacity for self-reliance through responsible freedom: a life that is free from any bondage of selfishness. Despite doubt. and thus renewing the society in general. C. It is at this time that their individuality is often defined.basi c coupl e coor di nat o r s ’ tr a i n i n g m a n u a l 24 2. and joy. The youth are being prepared to take on the anointing that their parents received from God. material attachment. In this way they could model how a life ought to be lived. its task is to assist the community in spreading God’s word to its members and to the world. Refiners’ Fire). Together with the Social Communications Arm (SOCCOM) of Couples for Christ. and pastor our YFC. And true enough. whether we gain much or receive little love in return. • A Life of Principle This means that the life which they committed themselves to will be lived out righteously and in God’s highest order. He called us to this work. YCOM pursues creative methods in sharing the various exciting programs and advocacies of YFC. a literary genius. we believe that God can work in us and through us. Our young generation may be encountering struggles because of the negative realities surrounding them. and strongest advocate of the Filipino youth. The Music Ministry plays an appropriate song (e. . this is how we see it in our community. 5. Speaker then leads everyone into a prayer and Reflection. reflecting how all aspects of life should be anchored on Christ. As Couple Coordinators. Let us submit our lives and our tasks as Couple Coordinators to Jesus. even their weaknesses as individuals and failures in their respective families and personal lives. that God has a mission for every single youth. I Give My All. the Philippines’ National Hero. they will be empowered and strengthened to truly shine as sons and daughters of God. Conclusion ch a p te r 2 27 J ose Rizal. and so long as we remain faithful. and to have the strength and the heart to embrace YFC and surrender everything that they have to Jesus. • A Life of Passion The young can embody a great zeal for pursuing this Purpose that they have defined for their lives. YCOM Program YFC Communications or YCOM is the official communications arm of Youth for Christ. He will definitely equip us. • A Life of Perspective This means that they are taught to see the “bigger picture” in everything: praying to look at things the way God would see it. the CCs should be encouraged to pray to the Lord for the wisdom and courage to take on God’s Anointing of them as pastors of the young. developing talent pools and providing pastorally anchored skills training opportunities in the process. • A Life of Priority This means that their life is full of Christ-Centered goals and plans. The youth will take on the work of building and bringing this world into God’s hands. affirm. and proclaim God’s greatness in a creative and powerful way. but with our help. was famous for stressing in his writings that the Youth is the Hope of our Future. We must learn to give as much love. that is why we put our trust in the Lord. The Challenge of the Couple Coordinators E mploying all of the points mentioned above – and combined with our personal witnessing and the power of the Spirit in our leadership – we as Couple Coordinators are challenged to guide the young to be imbibed with: • A Life of Purpose There is a deeper meaning to life than just going through it passively. It is then that we are able to effectively understand more and care more for young people. The calling is overwhelming and beyond our capacity.g. After absorbing Session 1.basi c coupl e coor di nat o r s ’ tr a i n i n g m a n u a l 26 programs. who has called us in the first place to understand. exhorting them to seek God’s Voice in their hearts. After this part. she gives the floor back to her husband. 4. 3. the speaker calls on three YFCs to share their personal experiences of being blessed and helped by their Couple Coordinators (refer to the Sharers’ Profile for the specifics).ch a p te r 2 CHAPTER 2 CALLED TO BE COUPLE COORDINATORS Session Two of the Basic Couple Coordinators’ Training SESSION DYNAMICS • Pastors of the Young • Bring The Youth Back To Their Families • Leaders of The Young To A Future Full Of Hope • An Advocate Of Loving Others 29 (Please refer to the Expanded Talk Outline for the explanation of each role. Objectives 2. 6. and whose wife shares the same views. “My deep desire and hope is that I shall never fail in my duty…” (Philippians 1:20) 1. and introduce the service structure of YFC. Talk Proper. the speaker will introduce his wife and call her to talk about the roles of women in a husband-wife relationship. someone who understands the YFC structure well. Sharer’s Profile Wife of the Session Speaker who can share how their roles as husband and wife apply in their roles as Couple Coordinators in YFC. For the participants: 3. To re-visit and reinforce the roles that husbands and wives have for each other. and he continues with the talk. To delve deeper into the general roles and responsibilities of YFC Couple Coordinators. Before the conclusion. To present the regular annual calendar of YFC activities and the 3-Year Formation Track. . During the part of “Beauty and Passion of Womanhood”. and not as a breakout “all-brothers” or “all-sisters” session. The session will end with an open forum. Three (3) YFC Members who have experienced the blessing of any of the roles of the Couple Coordinators: 5. and to highlight the importance of the husband and wife to team up together and form into a solid pastoral team in serving as YFC Couple Coordinators. and who implements the YFC cycle of activities and the 3-year Pastoral Formation Track. 2. Continuation of talk. This session will be delivered as a plenary presentation.) Dynamics 1. Speaker’s Profile A model YFC Couple Coordinator who sees the importance of Couple Coordinators in YFC. In other words. These are what we will be bringing as we start our journey with the youth. Using all of the experiences that have led them to where they are right now as husbands and/or fathers. Prudent Mentor Since the Lord made the husbands to be pastors and stewards of right and wrong. Be a source of encouragement to the husbands.ch a p te r 2 31 with the following roles: 1. it is important for us to understand our roles as men and women of Christ. understanding the YFC ministry better helps us appreciate the service that the Lord has given us. They are an essential part of what makes the community and the mission grow.) B. God equipped them with the strength to protect the flock that God entrusted to them. God has enabled them to be friends to bear burdens with and share joys with. our Married Life will be included and swept along as well. . As sisters and wives. With this. In between points. This is a very exciting challenge. we are given an opportunity to not just mold the present community. I will make a suitable partner for him. We take our roles as parents in our respective families and bring this to the bigger family of Youth for Christ. We are witnesses to how they make decisions for the relationship. Roles of Husbands and Wives as YFC Couple Coordinators Our relationship as partners in this service is not new to us. Servant-King CHAPTER 2 CALLED TO BE COUPLE COORDINATORS Session Two of the Basic Couple Coordinators’ Training EXPANDED OUTLINE Introduction Coming from Session 1. we will journey into our Roles as Husbands and Wives. re-visiting and reinforcing these Roles is certainly a must in order for us to perform our calling as CCs. (Note: The Speaker now introduces his Wife. and she will be the one to give the next inputs. and it gives us even greater joy to know that as God equips us for this service. and for the family.” (Genesis 2:18) Wives are created with special roles to fulfill in God’s plan. and how she is able to relate to the roles. As we all know. “ (Genesis 2:15) God anointed man to look after His kingdom. we take on the role of being with our husbands in every step of the way. As their partners. as YFC Couple Coordinators (CCs). The Strength and Splendor of Manhood “God took the man and settled him in the Garden of Eden to cultivate and take care of it. The Beauty and Passion of Womanhood The Lord God said: “It is not good for the man to be alone. she can share about her personal experiences as a wife. but we are guaranteeing a bright and strong future for the entire CFC community itself. 3. they are enabled to “walk the talk”: to not just show the way. A. In this Session. to keep out of the members’ life anything that will keep Christ out of their hearts. but to lead the way. not just leaders or directors. 4. to set a future for the flock with thought and care and guidance. 2. it is innate in their hearts to be able to point to the direction of holiness and righteousness. Mighty Warrior God designed men to be protectors. we are called to: 1. the Lord entrusted to us His young people. and bring the members there too. Faithful Friend God also intended the husbands to be good companions. As Couples for Christ. we are tasked God created men – the husbands – to be leaders and providers. the foundation of our relationship as partners in service emanates from our relationship as husband and wife. God placed in their hearts the capacity to build and make the community flourish and grow. This means that as men. This will give us the best advantage to guide them. Add exceedingly to their strength. We are to instill in them the values of love. YFC to Singles For Christ). we not only get to know our members better. desires. This role makes us evangelizers as well. We strengthen them as men when we give them the opportunity to practice their God-given roles in our lives. As CCs and also their Household Heads. This is how personal our roles are to them. obedience and trust for their parents and siblings. Be Leaders of the Young To A Future Full Of Hope YFC members can stay under our care for at least two (2) to three (3) years before they move on or transition to another service (e. career choices. we have the capacity to strengthen our husbands with our words. wives can give their husbands the insight that is necessary in addressing the needs of the area. It comes easier for women to build friendships and open up to people. especially for non-CFC parents. we ought to pastor them in the best way possible by inspiring and molding them in every household meeting they have with us. 2. and without a doubt. these will be necessary in our being YFC Couple Coordinators. as mentioned for the men earlier. as a solid husband-and-wifepastoral tandem. Community-based to Campus/High School-based) or another ministry (e. We have the ability to boost their spirit and inspire their soul. This is the one task of the husbands wherein we the wives can give the kind of support that no one else can. . C. Help him connect. The household is the very basic foundation of the life of a member in our community. to motivate them to keep moving forward despite their weaknesses and mistakes. it is the only time that we have to make a difference in their lives. while the men are more inclined to deal with the tasks/ operation side of life. no matter what situation they are in. and principles and outlook will prepare them for their future. we are called to encourage them to do the right thing according to God’s will. Our guidance of them in their love lives.) General Roles and Responsibilities as Couple Coordinators W e have re-visited our specific roles as husbands and wives. It is where a YFC member can fully grow in his/her love and relationship with God. Wives can complement the men through their strength in dealing with emotions and relationships. It is very hard for one person to fully and completely hear and see God’s direction for our lives and for our area of service. And when their time would come in crucial decision-making. So for the meantime that they belong to YFC. Provide indispensable affirmation. lead them and pastor them well. We are to build in them a life of integrity and excellence that is anchored on God. they need to hear from us how to face life. 3. as YFC CCs our role is to bring them back to their families. Be Pastors of the Young 33 B. Wives should encourage their husbands to play their leadership roles as men. (Note: The wife will now give the floor back to her husband. Now. By knowing the families of our YFC members. To pastor the YFC under our care is to ensure their spiritual growth by strengthening our HOUSEHOLDS with them. respect. but we are given the chance to develop a special relationship with their parents. and to honor them in times of victory. to lift them up in times of defeat. 4. We have seen how the partnership at home can be a blessing to the bigger family of Youth for Christ. This is also the best opportunity for us to know them better: their struggles.g. and leadership concerns. and gain their trust. In terms of strong affirmation. we will go deeper and learn our most important roles in the YFC Ministry. so that He will direct His children and keep His household after Him to keep the way of the Lord…” Genesis 18:19) Thus. members. they will remember everything that we taught them. we are called to: A. We do this by making them appreciate and love the family that they have.basi c coupl e coor di nat o r s ’ tr a i n i n g m a n u a l 32 ch a p te r 2 (“For I have chosen Him.g. Women have a gift of building relationships. As Couple Coordinators. and strengths. As wives. Bring the Youth Back To Their Families Though we become second parents to them in YFC. Young as they are. We will also expose them to the bigger of community of CFC. His love should be reflected in our lives. B. For a full blown structure of YFC Metro Manila and YFC Philippine Missions. This is how decisive our role is in leading them to a future full of Hope. obedience. As of now. Under them is the Provincial Program Couple Coordinators whose primary role is to see that there is proper implementation of each YFC programs in the province. The Provincial Couple Coordinator is the head of YFC.basi c coupl e coor di nat o r s ’ tr a i n i n g m a n u a l 34 ch a p te r 2 35 “Whatever you do. the presence of the Couple coordinators up to the Chapter level is highly appreciated and needed to sustain the YFC programs. The Over-all Sector Couple Coordinator is the head of YFC. This means that in the structure. A. the Provincial Set-up has Provincial Core Coupe Coordinators not sector. D. forgiveness and humility. Provincial/Country Set-up The organizational structure of YFC Philippine Missions follows the structure of the CFC in the province. This means that in the structure. we constantly look for opportunities for our YFC members to develop their careers and talents. We teach them this love through the value of respect. The Chapter Couple Coordinators is followed above by the Cluster Couple Coordinators then the Program Couple Coordinators (for Metro Manila) or Sector Couple Coordinators (for Philippine Missions). refer to the diagram below. guiding them in moving on from one service to another and transitioning them to SFC according to their needs. they need to know that because God is love. we are called to generally be advocates in loving others by being examples of love ourselves: through our relationships with them and our co-Couple Coordinators. Compared to Metro Manila Set-up. Thus. The couple represents YFC as one of the Family Ministries of the province. As CCs. the youth also long for the relationships that they can gain as they serve in YFC. The couple represents YFC as one of the Family Ministries of the Sector. the presence of the Couple coordinators up to the Chapter level is highly appreciated and needed to sustain the YFC programs.” – Colossians 3:23). They are the Sector Core Couple Coordinators As of now. as for the Lord rather than for men. Under them is the Sector Program Couple Coordinators whose primary role is to see that there is proper implementation of each YFC programs in their sector. . it is only the YFC Community-based which has multi-level of coordinators. it is only the YFC Community-based which has multi-level of coordinators. Metro Manila Set-up The organizational structure of YFC Metro Manila follows the structure of the CFC Metro Manila. We follow the CFC flow of leadership starting on our startup structure which is the Chapter level headed by the Chapter Couple Coordinators and Chapter Youth Heads. And so. do your work heartily. General YFC Organizational Structure T he Organizational Structure of YFC is highly dependent on the CFC Structure. Be an Advocate of Loving Others More than just our partners and co-missionaries in doing the work of God. Community – This is the relationship of the youth member between the bigger community of CFC and Catholic Church. YEAR 3 – LIVING OUT THE FAITH • This is the phase where a YFC’s conviction is strengthened 37 All activities except for the Youth Camp should be done at the cluster level. Areas of Growth SELF YEAR 1 Knowing the faith YEAR 2 Deepening the faith YEAR 3 Living out the Faith YOUTH CAMP (weekend activity) DISCOVERY CAMP (weekend activity) 1 year after Youth Camp VOCATION RECOLLECTION (whole day) . Formation Progression The following is an outlook of the YFC formation with regards to the Phases of Evangelization and the areas of growth of the YFC. Family – This is talks about how YFC should relate towards his family members. family ministry member. Level of Implementation YEAR 1 – KNOWING THE FAITH • This is the phase when a YFC member starts getting to know God more and is learning to experience belonging to a support community like YFC. it focuses on deepening the faith and developing it. 2. These are aspects where our YFC members play their role – person. After his/her self. A. YFC as a ministry has came up with a formation track that every YFC member must undergo. Any addition/changes that this report entails to the roles and responsibilities of coordinators in any level will be noted but must be put in the respective training manuals/ tracks for couple coordinators. D. The activities per year also try to affect the areas of growth of YFC from self to the society. 4. we do not just simply do the above-mentioned tasks. we concentrate on living out the faith and putting into practice what we have learned. YEAR 2 – DEEPENING THE FAITH • This is the phase where a YFC is called to a deeper relationship with God by taking a more active role in the family and by taking faith a step higher by exemplifying excellence in studies and living a 100% Free life. the family is the next surrounding aspect followed by the community of Couples for Christ and eventually the society. family member (son/daughter). • They start being open to the idea that loving the poor is an expression of loving God. A fter hearing all the roles that we play as Couple Coordinators. On the second year. lasts for three years with specific objectives per year. Society – This is revolves around the relationship between the YFC member and to his country. (See 3-year Formation Track Brief Explanation in Annex C). The following are the summary of the phases of evangelization and the areas of growth respectively: 1.basi c coupl e coor di nat o r s ’ tr a i n i n g m a n u a l 36 ch a p te r 2 and lived out by taking active discernments for the future that God has in store him/her. • The youth starts getting to know their own family more in the light of Christian values and principles. Phases of Evangelization The Phases of Evangelization is the general theme of the foundation for a certain year in the track. which we call phases of evangelization. by actively participating in the sacraments and in workings of the bigger Church. Lastly. on the third year. we recognized the different aspects of life that our YFC members are surrounded with. The formation progression. (refer to appendix) 3-Year Pastoral Formation Track B. and a citizen. C. Areas of Growth In our pastoral formation. and by taking a pro-active stand in the issues in the society. Self – This is how a youth member sees himself. 3. YFC ministry sees the first year as all about knowing the faith. Note: An attached report focuses in detail on the levels of growth of a province in terms of structure. Community Based SHOUT Mission Trips May *while some modules must be conducted in a specific time frame (e. March SHOUT Mission Trips Provincial Youth Conference (PM) Couple Coordinator’s Conference A. provided that they fall under the specific year of the youth’s membership in YFC. YFC has a monthly activity (which can be replaced to give way to the major activities). a program training (if there is a need for the programs to coordinate). it should be frequent and consistent. a per program orientation can be given to have better comprehension.) B.g. Other country can have other cycle of activities in different programs depending on the start of the academic year. this is highly encouraged to all areas. The table presented below is a sample annual cycle of activities of a full grown YFC. The monthly activities of an area should include a chapter assembly. As for the monthly cycle of activities. Covenant Orientation which should happen 3 months after the Youth Camp). YFC realized that for youth formation to be effective. Month 39 Homecoming . The leaders in the area can include the important activities in a year according to the existing programs. YFC Annual Cycle of Activities January SHOUT Mission Trips HPV Weekend Provincial Youth Conference (PM) November Y Campus Based SHOUT Mission Trips Execom Training Provincial Youth Conference (PM) June FC as a ministry has the following cycle of activities. Monthly Cycle of Activities Aside from the major activities. others are left to the discretion of the Cluster Couple Coordinators and their youth heads. The table presented below is a sample monthly activity of YFC. and a recollection (it it is needed). The leaders of the area can decide the sequence and flow of the area monthly cycle of activities.basi c coupl e coor di nat o r s ’ tr a i n i n g m a n u a l 38 FAMILY LIFE COMMUNITY LIFE SOCIETAL FAMILY CULTURE (whole day) 3 months after Covenant Orientation ch a p te r 2 International Leaders’ Conference PARENT’S HONORING (evening activity) BEST WEEKEND (weekend activity) April COVENANT ORIENTATION (whole day) 3 months after Youth Camp 100% FREE (whole day) YOUTH POWER (whole day) STAKE FOR THE NATION (half day Activity) CHURCH & Sacraments (half day activity) Y AD (Whole day) Cycle of Activities Cluster Heads LevelUp Training July Chapter Heads’ Overnight SHOUT Mission Trips Highschool High Club-selling YCOM Academy Couple Coordinator’s Conference September Sector Conference (MM) October Regional Youth Conference/ Metrocon Parish Priest Day December High School Based Campus Tour (For a more detailed description of each activity. TORCH YCOM Week Activity 1st TORCH Assembly Chapter Assembly HH Meeting 2nd Leaders’ Assembly February Campus Yearend Campus Fresh Freshmen Care August The Annual Cycle of Activities is a line-up of activities that concerns the YFC members. 2 regular households. a leaders gathering. and Leaders’ Assembly see Annex D. Dynamics 1. To learn how to live out their role of being pastors to the young through regular one-on-ones with the YFC members. and F respectively. Chapter Assembly. Let us not be consumed of everything that we have seen and heard. A lot of programs have developed and people who have grown deeper to Christ.) Conclusion The Lord has brought YFC to greater heights since 1993. To learn the proper way of having one-on-ones with the youth.basi c coupl e coor di nat o r s ’ tr a i n i n g m a n u a l 40 3rd HH Meeting 4th Program Training (For a more detailed concept of conducting a HH Meeting. E. Let us allow God to help us in this great mission that He has called us to do. Mini Pastoral Talk • This Mini Pastoral Talk is given as an exhortation and overview of the “Spirit behind” conducting one-on-ones. CHAPTER 2 CONDUCTING ONE-ON-ONES WITH THE YOUTH Workshop One of the Basic Couple Coordinators’ Training WORKSHOP DYNAMICS Objectives For the participants: 1. We have heard our scope of service and everything that this service demands. The following talk points are given as a guide in the exhortation: Talk Points: οο Our Role as Pastors to the young -- a privilege -- an opportunity οο One-on-one is our tool as Pastors to the Young -- an opportunity to know our YFC more -- an opportunity to guide them and support them -- an opportunity to love and pray for them . 2. οο CC will share how he/she handled the YFC. οο Observer will share his/her observations from the one-on-ones. Closing Prayer Speaker’s Profile A CFC brother (preferably a CC) of good pastoral integrity who has had many experiences of One-on-Ones in the community. . • After the sharing. but more importantly ch a p te r 2 43 with YFC. Workshop Proper: Triad Workshop • The speaker instructs the participants to group themselves in threes (3). Basic Guidelines in Conducting One-on-ones with the Youth (must be with PowerPoint presentation) 3. (See Situations for One-on-Ones in Annex D) • The observer will write down comments and take note of inputs that he/she has observed as he/she listens to the mock one-on-one. he must be able give concrete examples of his encounters with the youth during one-on-one. 2. • When the allotted time for the mock one-on-ones is finished. οο One YFC + two (2) CCs (if YFC are available) οο Or three (3) CCs (if no YFC can join the workshop) • Each person in the triad will be assigned to play the following roles: οο YFC member οο CC giving the one-on-one οο CC as Observer • YFC members (either real YFC or CCs assigned to act as YFC) will be given certain situations or experiences that they will share to the CCs in-charge of giving them one-on-one. the Speaker proceeds in presenting the proper way of conducting one-on-ones in YFC.basi c coupl e coor di nat o r s ’ tr a i n i n g m a n u a l 42 2. the speaker will ask volunteers from the triads to share based on the following criteria: οο YFC will share how the CC handled him/her. the Couple Coordinator should start the one-on-one. B. However. Program Couple Coordinators have their Program Youth Heads. the primary purpose is to check up on the life of the youth. For this. Personal Life CHAPTER 2 CONDUCTING ONE-ON-ONES WITH THE YOUTH Workshop One of the Basic Couple Coordinators’ Training WORKSHOP OUTLINE Basic Guidelines in Conducting One-on-ones with the Youth As CCs. openness. Appropriate time – both parties free at this time. 5. and Overall Sector Couple Coordinators have their Over-all Sector Youth Heads/ Mission Volunteers/Area Fulltime Pastoral Workers to take care. State the purpose/direction of the one-on-one. Chapter Couple Coordinators have their Chapter Youth Heads with which they need to have one-on-ones with. Advise youth on the topic of the one-on-one so that he/she can also pray for leading. the guidelines below are used for conducting regular one-onones with our youth. phone calls B. Prayer Life E. Love Life F. -- preferably at home of either party -- free from disturbances. School Life D. On the day of the One-on-One 1. private place. a quiet. Our YFC Youth Heads have been given the anointing to conduct oneon-ones to the YFC members under their stewardship.g. honesty and wisdom. Have a short opening prayer. and the CC will be the one to have a one-on-one with that YFC. Hence. 2. It is during this time that the YFC leader needs to endorse that certain YFC member to his Couple Coordinator. Family Life C. The one-on-ones should be conducted by the CFC Couple Coordinator Brother to YFC Brother and CFC Couple Coordinator Sister to YFC Sister. . Set up the one-on-one in an appropriate venue at an appropriate time. Cluster Couple Coordinators have their Cluster Youth Heads. Schedule the one-on-one at least a week before the actual date. grave sins).1 Prior to the One-on-One 1 There is also a special/guided process of one-on-ones given to the youth whenever special concerns/issues are encountered. we need to have a constant one-on-one with our YFC mission-partners. Pray and discern God’s direction for the one-on-one. revelation. Since one-onones are done regularly. ensuring the atmosphere of trust.ch a p te r 2 45 1. no pressing appointments that may disrupt free flow of discussion. 2. Sector Couple Coordinators have their Sector Youth Heads. A. and to get to know them on a deeper level. situations may arise wherein the YFC leader cannot handle the YFC member’s pastoral concern that has been brought up during their one-on-one (e. Service Life 3. Provincial Couple Coordinators have their Provincial Youth Heads/Mission Volunteers/Fulltime Pastoral Workers. The Couple Coordinator conducting the one-on-one should be at the venue fifteen (15) minutes prior or exactly at the agreed time. 3. serious family problems. 4. As soon as the youth arrives and settles down. 4. Appropriate venue – a place where both parties can discuss with ease and comfort. refer to the Special One-on-Ones Workshop of the Three Year Couple Coordinator’s Training Track. A. Conclusion O ne-on-ones are a major source of joy for Couple Coordinators and youth alike. more than giving corrections. Initiate the first question. The entire dialogue may take a maximum of two (2) hours. the Couple Coordinator should refer to outputs from the previous one-on-one. The Couple Coordinator closes with a short prayer of thanksgiving and empowerment. ch a p te r 2 47 4. Throughout the one-on-one. However. Taking down notes while the one-on-one is ongoing is not an option as this can intimidate the youth and affect the openness with which the sharing is being made. As has been previously stated in Session One. 3. 7. We may be good conversationalists or not. Practice active listening techniques – asking follow-up questions. our community is all about relationships after all. the Couple Coordinator should ensure understanding by summarizing the sharing of the youth. the victory will always belong to Him in the end. and the points above are just given for guidance. The Couple Coordinator should follow through with the youth action points of the one-on-one in between the scheduled sessions. He then asks if there are additional points that the youth may have missed or wishes to ask. For succeeding one-on-ones. This is still a personal sharing. especially those items with pastoral implications. 2. As Couple Coordinators.) Tips for the Couple Coordinator 1. let us pray for the grace and humility to become the Lord’s mouthpieces as He reaches out to His youth. but a fuller and nourishing love and friendship as well.46 basi c coupl e coor di nat o r s ’ tr a i n i n g m a n u a l 5. One-on-one dialogue between the Couple Coordinator and youth leader should be scheduled every quarter. (Note: CCs should also conduct one-on-ones with their co-Couple Coordinators to check on their service related roles. 3. 6. in the ensuing discussion the Couple Coordinator should be more of a listener: trying to absorb as much of what the youth is trying to say. a careful explanation and expressed permission needs to be asked first from the youth. If the CC really has a complete and absolute need to take down notes. The Couple Coordinator should mentally take note of pastoral issues that need to be discussed more incisively. (Speaker ends with a Closing Prayer of thanksgiving and empowerment) . including actions agreed on for pastoral issues. The Couple Coordinator should coach/facilitate the youth to articulate/express one’s self. 8. 9. The Couple Coordinator summarizes points shared. The Couple Coordinator’s goal should be more of knowing the youth better through what is being shared. or reprimanding. An action plan to address the pastoral issues raised must be discussed. Post One-on-One Guidelines 1. but so long as we continue to be open to be used by the Lord. 2. 5. The CC should take care that the one-on-one not fall into a corporate “by-the-book interview” versus personal tone. One should have a mental picture of the key points of the sharing. paraphrasing. It gives way to not just a stronger service relationship in the mission. and God’s messages are brought to life. Thus. Open Forum A YFC Cluster Youth Head or a very experienced YFC Chapter leader (whether in Community based. and particularly one who has no difficulty in relating to and communicating with Couple Coordinators. this Workshop is designed to equip the CCs with the knowledge and skill in understanding and ultimately leading a Prayer Meeting. . To see the importance of Prayer Meetings in the mission of YFC. It is where personal stories. Sharing 4. Or a Couple Coordinator (preferably a Chapter Couple Coordinator or High School based Program Coordinator or Campus based Program Coordinator) who has a very good experience in overseeing and leading Prayer Meetings. But more than overseers. one who has already led a Prayer Meeting (be it a Chapter Assembly for Community based. 2. Dynamics (Note: This is a plenary workshop) 1. To understand the basic elements of a Prayer Meeting. 3.ch a p te r 2 49 Speaker’s Profile CHAPTER 2 LEADING A PRAYER MEETING Workshop Two of the Basic Couple Coordinators’ Training WORKSHOP DYNAMICS Rationale T he Prayer Meeting is one of the most concrete and intimate venues where one can experience the greatness of Christ’s love. High School based or Campus based). CCs also need to be on the ground and provide hands-on support for the YFC leaders who are spearheading the prayer meetings. Workshop Proper: Mock Prayer Meeting 3. The presence of Couple Coordinators (CCs) in these prayer meetings is a must. To give a background on how it is to lead a Prayer Meeting. the Youth Head must have a good working relationship with his/her Couple Coordinators. Talk Proper 2. and/or Prayer Meeting for Campus based). also. Prayer meetings are held regularly to sustain the continuity and consistency of a member’s growth towards Christ. realizations. someone who is immersed in YFC and who has a good working relationship with his/her Youth Heads as well. for a YFC activity without CCs are like children without parents. Objectives 1. Club Meeting for High School based. As Couple Coordinators. friendship. and worship is the time when people have the opportunity to come into God’s presence. freedom. along with the other friendly YFC leaders and CCs. and sincerity with each other. it is important for us to see to it that the presence of God is experienced and felt in every meeting. while for the Collective Household Assembly topics can be taken from the Household Topic Manual. the topics are taken from the Chapter Assembly Topic Manual. the team can prepare two sharers . Therefore it is highly important for us to know and fully understand what it means to lead a Prayer Meeting. B. C. Elements of a Prayer Meeting A Prayer Meeting is a regular monthly gathering of all members of a YFC Chapter.ch a p te r 2 51 A. Certain YFC leaders spearhead these prayer meetings throughout the different programs. games. and a Prayer Meeting (for Campus Based). each person gets to personally experience the love and faithfulness of Christ. it is our responsibility to work hand-in-hand with our Youth Heads in leading our members into a Jesus-experience in these meetings. or Organization. It is important that this will be delivered in an understandable way. It is a venue where God will allow us Couple Coordinators (CCs) to personally see how God has been working in the lives of our youth. Sharers usually convey stories about their life experiences and the victory of God in those moments. Sharing The sharing is conducted to enhance the message of the prayer meeting. This can be done through group discussions. This will help the listeners understand and capture the points. one must consider the following elements: The prayer meeting is a venue for everyone to build and nurture relationships. In worship. this is also the chance for the CCs to get to know the YFC members that they are taking care of. Relationships CHAPTER 2 LEADING A PRAYER MEETING Workshop Two of the Basic Couple Coordinators’ Training WORKSHOP OUTLINE Introduction P rayer meetings create a venue for the youth to intimately experience the reality of God’s love through fun. it is important that the YFC worship leader be able to exhort and bring everyone into a prayerful atmosphere. namely: the Chapter Youth Heads together with the Chapter CCs for Community based Chapter Assemblies. Talk/Activity The talk or the activity is the gist of the prayer meeting: it is the reason why we are having an assembly in the first place. and to establish friendships with other CCs. and faith. a General Assembly (for High School Based). or icebreakers that can create an atmosphere of fun. D. and it contains the whole message of that particular prayer meeting. and the YFC Executive Vice President (EVP) with the assistance of the YFC Campus Program Volunteer (PV) for Campus based Prayer Meetings. For chapter assemblies. It is encouraged that sharers are YFC members so that the listeners can easily relate with the message. In YFC. we stress the need and opportunity for each member to experience and grow in faith. giving us a chance to witness the progress of growth in their faith. Their experiences support a point or the main topic of the assembly. The prayer meeting is conducted as a Chapter Assembly (for Community Based). The prayer meeting leader is encouraged to have a good relationship with the people attending the meeting. In prayer meetings. Club. In order to create a successful prayer meeting. During the prayer meeting. trust. At the same time. the YFC Vice President (VP) for Evangelization with the assistance of the YFC High School Program Volunteer (HPV) and YFC Club Moderator for High School based General Assemblies. It is an opportunity for the participants to meet new people and establish friendships. Worship As CCs. and worship greatly aids in this. ) ch a p te r 2 53 οο Exhort the crowd to be eager and excited of the activity by bringing them into God’s presence As he conducts his roles. For those who are on-thespot sharers. The prayer meeting leader can carry a pen and paper in order to immediately catch what the Lord is trying to say in every activity. οο Facilitate the entire activity by being the emcee of the assembly and tying one segment to the next 2. Avoid having the participants face the door or window so that they won’t get distracted by the people entering/passing by. the service team should listen first to the story of the sharer before allowing them to share in front. No matter how . it has a duration of two (2) to four (4) hours. and to the prophetic messages. the sharings. Inspiring The prayer meeting leader is the one that leads people to be in the presence of God. Important Considerations The Prayer Meeting Leader is important in the over-all success of the activity. in order to keep things fun and entertaining for them in the prayer meeting. mainly because God’s Word can be seen in different parts of the assembly. He needs to listen to sharers. speakers. He should also be in touch of what the members may be generally experiencing or feeling at the moment in order to better tailor-fit talks and processing points. it is important that he is also able to acquire the following characteristics: A. During that time. Usually. Processing This is when the team leader connects all the parts of the prayer meeting – from the worship. Attentive The prayer meeting leader should be the most attentive in the gathering.basi c coupl e coor di nat o r s ’ tr a i n i n g m a n u a l 52 and encourage more on the day itself. C. B. and to the sharing. οο Process the topic. The ideal seating arrangement in an assembly is square or oval where everyone can hear the speaker in front. Gathering songs are intended to gather members. he must be able to excite the crowd into preparing themselves to listen to God’s personal message for them. it is important to take note of the following: οο Welcome the participants as they arrive at the venue. He then connects all of God’s messages heard throughout the prayer meeting. making sure that they are at ease and comfortable in being part of the meeting 1. or by the things going on outside the venue. to the talk/activity. Prayer Meeting Sample Program Duration of prayer meetings usually differ per area. This element is important because it gives the participants a good grasp of God’s message throughout the entire activity. the roles of the Prayer Meeting Leader are discussed. He can do this by sharing personal experiences or inspiring stories that can be related to the topic. for he can then use this as a starting point for discussing the topic. It makes them fully understand and teaches them how to apply in their lives everything that they learned in the meeting. and the exhortation to the worship in order to give the members a good grasp of the topic 3. He should know what it is that they would be interested in. He should be able to: As one plans a Prayer Meeting. it is important that one should know the following elements of the program: οο Set-up one (1) hour οο Gathering/Teaching of Songs (30 mins) οο Exhortation & Worship (20 mins) οο Talk/Activity (45 mins) οο Sharings (30 mins) οο Summary/Closing Prayer (10 mins) The Prayer Meeting Leader (Note: For purposes of the Mock Prayer Meeting later. E. People Oriented It is good for the prayer meeting leader to know what works best for the members. Therefore. It is expected that all the elements of the Prayer Meeting – as discussed earlier – would be present. As the service team conducts this. logistics. The mock assembly runs for twenty (20) minutes. emcee. understand how the members may feel or react during the event. secretariat. The goal is for them to learn how to handle the prayer meeting. The participants are given twenty (20) to thirty (30) minutes to prepare. As CCs now ready to go on mission. etc. and have awareness on the various skills and tips that they need to work on. the mock prayer meeting team leader will decide on what assignment he/she will give to the other participants: speaker. From there.basi c coupl e coor di nat o r s ’ tr a i n i n g m a n u a l 54 many people are already there during the prayer meeting. acting as participants.g. while the service team will act as participants. After thirty (30) minutes. . the Music Ministry should start singing or teaching songs the moment a participant has already arrived. the shy one. knowing that all our efforts will help bring our members closer to Christ. The service team. 4. The Speaker will assign a CC brother participant to be the team leader of the mock prayer meeting. 6. He has equipped us with the basic skills and knowledge in order to carry out this exciting task. sharer. 3. program. 7. let us strive to be consistent and effective in our prayer meetings. 2. The roles portray different kinds of attitudes that members may display throughout a Prayer Meeting (e. Conclusion CHAPTER 2 The Lord has given us the privilege of introducing Christ and the culture of YFC to our members. All the CC participants will act as the service team of the Mock Prayer Meeting. it is important to take note of the following guidelines: 1.). the one that’s bored etc. and the suggested schedule of a typical Prayer Meeting is followed. may take on certain roles throughout the event. they will start the mock assembly. The service team should observe how the participants are conducting the event. 5. MOCK PRAYER MEETING T he Mock Prayer Meeting is conducted in order for the CCs to get a good grasp and idea of what transpires throughout the whole activity. the one that’s too loud. about the activity. The speaker will then give specific inputs. ANNEX A SAMPLE PROBLEM TREE AND SAMPLE SOLUTION TREE Sample Problem Tree Sample Solution Tree .56 basi c coupl e coor di nat o r s ’ tr a i n i n g m a n u a l 8. and suggestions. the speaker can ask at least two (2) to three (3) participants to share. observations. After the mock assembly. 9. the concept of 100% Free. LIVE FREE. Thus. This means living our lives free from guilt. Although our previous 100% Pure program has been effective for a time. temptation. a new approach and a new name is formed. C. Living the free life allows us to be: A. Advocating Life (Conviction) 100% Free essentially means living a great life. comments have arisen regarding the old program’s terminologies. but this world has a different meaning of freedom. and freedom. Thus said. Our 100% Free Identity stands on THREE basic principles and made firm by EIGHT conviction statements. As Youth for Christ. love. we proclaim: BE FREE. masks. Rationale Purity and chastity have always been the values that we aim to uphold B. living in the light of His love. This identity anchors on the verse: “For freedom Christ set us free. so stand firm and do not submit again to the yoke of slavery. It is a principle discouraging substance abuse that can lead to not only an unhealthy lifestyle. or rigid. However. negativity. The views and stands that the new generation is being taught about purity and chastity are either lacking or distorted in information. fight the right to live this great life planned by God for us. Therefore. rapidly changing lifestyle today. In other words. as Youth for Christ. The Free Life I t takes effort. Therefore.” Galatians 5:1 59 This means removing the chains of sin. and insecurities. we. It means fulfilling the great plan that God has set out for us.a n n ex b ANNEX B 100% FREE CONCEPT PAPER Christ intends for us to be free. with schools and parishes wanting to know more about it. Below is a fleshed out overview of this newly repackaged YFC identity. addiction. we use the freedom that He Himself has given us to achieve our main purpose of loving. full of joy. the aim should be to become witnesses of God’s transforming love to millions of our fellow youth who wish to experience the same.100% Free. It is a common notion to associate freedom with the thought of doing anything that we would want to do. It means being who we are meant to be. The world has placed real Freedom in a negative light. 100% Free is our IDENTITY as Youth For Christ members. honoring. 100% Free means that every child of God should experience this as well. and serving Him. Free to Live Free to Live stands by the conviction statements that support taking care of our own bodies. This means removing all barriers or hindrances from being with God. As children of God. BREAK FREE. harsh. especially because of the fast-paced. The 100% Pure Principles have been said to be too condemning. 100% Free is defined as: A. we always seek to put our name into a lifestyle as we try to live out the 7 YFC IDs. one of the identities of Youth for Christ is to live a 100% free lifestyle. bad labels. Breaking from Bondage (Decision) as Christians. Living in the Fullness of Life (Promise) This means experiencing the life that we are meant to live as Christians. and this is what we want everyone to know and fight for. technicalities and approach. this has been an issue for the youth. We pass on this knowledge of freedom and help others to free themselves. In every aspect of our lives. courage. What is 100% Free? M ore than just being an advocacy. This is our response to the bigger conviction of Couples for Christ called PRO-LIFE. . and the ability to be steadfast in one’s decision in order to maintain and continue being 100% Free. YFC believes in practicing self-control and clean fun. and given in God’s time. experienced. We are also taught to help our brothers and sisters that are having trouble in realizing their identity in God’s plan. Thus. as we prepare ourselves to receive this Gift in His perfect time. YFC believes that minds are powerful cultivators of our actions and thus should be free from lustful/malicious thoughts that are promoted in pornographic materials. 100% Man and Woman – YFC believes that God has created specific roles for us as men and women. This also means that we. FREE to LOVE Free to Love stands by the basic principles of upholding the genuine kind of love that the Lord has given us. The following are the Conviction Statements that champion this principle: 1. either as man or woman. it should be made precious. This means believing in the kind of love that is learned. YFC believes that sex is a gift intended only for pro-creation between two mature adults. should not engage in pre-marital sex. YFC believes that sex in essence is used for Pro-Creation. It encourages living out the roles of a man and woman. We encourage the youth to live their identities as they were created. YFC believes that our age is the time to build lasting relationships with these loved ones. and action. we as YFC should focus our time. This means living out our true selves and who we are made to be. But young as we are. Free to Be Free to Be stands by the conviction statements that uphold being who we really are. This means YFC discourages physical self-gratification. We believe in purity of thought. Zero Drugs – YFC says no to substance/drug abuse. and not lead us to be isolated from them because of early and premature romantic relationships. 3. Virgin and Proud – YFC believes that sex is a sacred gift given by God. and devotion on our relationships with parents. 2. joined by God in marriage. unconditional and unfailing. and siblings first. friends. we believe in the essence of waiting. 3. which only relies on its definition. 2. And as sons and daughters of God. Real Love Waits – Real love is defined as the genuine kind of love that comes as a GIFT from God. and received in its proper time. our bodies could not handle and/or control alcoholic content. The following are the Conviction Statements that champion this principle: 1. . in accordance to God’s plan. love. taken cared off. Like a gift. Being virgin and proud goes beyond technical and physical virginity. 2. And thus being virgin and proud means having dignity and integrity. and avoids green jokes and swearing. speech. The following are the Conviction Statements that champion this principle: 1. a n n ex b 61 C. YFC stands by the fact that we don’t have to drink alcoholic beverages and get drunk in order to experience fun. Free from Pornography – YFC believes that our bodies are created sacred by God and should not be exploited for selfish pleasure. This means loving the way that God has taught us. Pure Inside and Out – YFC believes not only in the purity of our bodies per se but also purity at our very core. 0% Alcohol – YFC believes that drinking alcohol is not a sin in itself. B. YFC believes that special romantic relationships are examples of this kind of gift. Smoke Free – YFC says no to smoking. This means that we don’t have to enter into a romantic relationship to feel the genuine and real kind of love. as Youth for Christ. While waiting for the right time and at our age. YFC believes that we are designed to be man and woman in order to live with each other and work together for His purpose. a gift that is appropriate only for marriage/ the Sacrament of Matrimony. Our hearts and minds are the core of our being and it is important that these be free from negativity and lustfulness. we have the ability to give real love.basi c coupl e coor di nat o r s ’ tr a i n i n g m a n u a l 60 but also to sin. both in name and in essence. It means loving yourself and experiencing the kind of love that is not just bound by physical intimacy. Summary of Formation Tracks YEAR 1 A. activities and sessions. YOUTH CAMP The Youth Camp is the entry point into YFC. We in the YFC ministry also acknowledge the fact that our members need to grow not only in their personal relationship with God. T he 3-Year Pastoral Formation (PFO) Track caters to three (3) Phases of Evangelization. YEAR 1 – KNOWING THE FAITH • This is the phase where a YFC starts getting to know God more and experiences belonging in a support community like YFC. YFC believes that intense pastoral support is needed by the members not just in the first year of their membership. More so. YEAR 2 – DEEPENING THE FAITH • This is the phase where a YFC is called to a deeper relationship with God by taking a more active role in the family. It will address the question “How is the Youth Camp conducted… really?” and will lay down the principles behind its activities. It is a 2-day and 2-night weekend activity that introduces the youth to a new life in Christ through YFC. This will start their journey as a YFC member. YEAR 3 – LIVING OUT THE FAITH YFC seeks to empower the YFC members through pastoral formation. and by taking faith a step higher through exemplifying excellence in studies and living a 100% Free life. • This includes new handbooks for the Team Leaders. It is composed of twelve (12) modules. . founded in God’s ultimate love for them. YFC sought to create a pastoral formation track that will assist them in their gradual growth as sons and daughters of God. starting with a Youth Camp. Facilitators. the community. • The Revised Youth Camp Manual (2011 Edition) features a more extensive explanation of the Youth Camp: its compositions. doing away with the practices that is not really part of our culture but have nevertheless been done over the years. and will open new and exciting opportunities for them to grow in their personal relationship with God. but all throughout their YFC life. and the society where they belong in. Phases of Evangelization • This is the phase where a YFC’s conviction is strengthened and lived out by taking active discernments for the future. the entry point to YFC. actively participating in the sacraments and workings of the bigger Catholic Church. the 3-Year Pastoral Formation Track for YFC general membership.a n n ex c ANNEX C 3-YEAR PASTORAL FORMATION TRACK OVERVIEW 63 • He starts to get to know his family more in the light of Christian values and principles. • He starts being open to the idea that loving the poor is an expression of loving God. and Prayer Warriors. which represent the number of years of the YFC membership. Because of this. but also in their relationship with their family. Hence. regardless of area or program of service. The 3-Year Pastoral Formation (PF) Track is the pastoral module of Youth For Christ that is given to every single member. which will help them in their spiritual growth and nourishment. and by taking a pro-active stand on issues in the society. friends. BEST WEEKEND This is an overnight activity given to a YFC member who is in the third year of the YFC formation track. YOUTH POWER This is a whole-day activity. moving them to strive harder to be the best student for the Lord. This talks more extensively about the different aspects of a YFC’s life and shows the YFC Christian way of 65 This is an evening activity. given in a YFC member’s second year. PARENTS’ HONORING NIGHT Objectives: • Learn and understand the covenant of a CFC Youth for Christ member. and to their households. It focuses on YFC’s response to the social dimension of the gospel. It is an overview of all the repackaged Principles and Advocacies that is now 100% Free. This moves them to start discerning and praying for God’s personal purpose and plan for their lives. FAMILY CULTURE This is a whole day activity. which gives the YFC members a chance to appreciate their parents and vocally honor them in front of others. • Develop a sense of identity and responsibility in our role as a believer of the Catholic Faith and as a member of our church. This appreciation moves them to start praying for each of their own family members. • Live out the covenant of YFC through the pastoral formation and activities. given in a YFC member’s first year. • Renew and deepen our commitment to Christ by understanding and following our covenant with Him. given in a creative and comprehensible manner. This activity aims to bring them to a deeper level of commitment to God. This is a fellowship activity. to YFC. It is given one year after the Youth Camp. encouraging the YFC into aiming and advocating a life that is free from the bondage of sin and the lures of the world. The Covenant Orientation (CO) is the Pastoral Formation Track that lays down our commitments as YFC members. given in a YFC member’s second year. C. G. given in a YFC member’s second year. D. It brings awareness to the youth that this is part of our expression of our love for God. This pastoral formation highlights the highest calling of every YFC: being a student. STAKE FOR THE NATION This is a half-day activity. It is given in a YFC member’s third year. This activity reinforces the YFC’s role in the family as they . all in all. F. It is. especially the poor. COVENANT ORIENTATION dealing with these aspects. 100% FREE This is a whole-day activity. given in a YFC member’s first year.basi c coupl e coor di nat o r s ’ tr a i n i n g m a n u a l 64 a n n ex c B. coming from the previous 100% Pure advocacy. It allows our YFC members to appreciate different family cultures. as shown in the YFC Covenant Card. J. • Inspire the youth to mature in their Christian life through YFC. thus encouraging them to appreciate their own family. YEAR 3 I. and perceive God’s personal calling for them. which is to love others. This is a launching of the 100% Free concept. VOCATION RECOLLECTION This is a whole day activity. DISCOVERY CAMP The Discovery Camp is the 1st pastoral formation track on the members’ 2nd year in YFC. H. YEAR 2 E. which gives the YFC members a venue to appreciate the different vocations. It is a Father-son and Mother-daughter bonding activity. It also serves to refresh the YFC members of their Youth Camp experience the year before. our family. our community and our country. It makes them see that their education is a gift. K. Y-AD (Youth Advocate) This is a whole-day activity. To have more openness. It aims to provide sutable topics and activities. given in a YFC member’s third year. Ideally. and realization in every aspect of their lives. friendship. Households are conducted twice every month. apart from the regular meeting of the Chapter. it is ideal that the household of the brothers be separated from that of the sisters. It is a great venue for bonding and sharing between the father and his son and between the mother and her daughter. so that . it is important for us to remeber the following guidelines: 1. As we lead our respective Households. freedom and faith. This is the avenue where YFC members get to experience the greatness of Christ’s amazing love on a peronal level as they share with one another their struggles and victories. moving them to fight for what they believe in. It is a venue for the YFC to further appreciate their faith through our relationship with the bigger Catholic Church. Trust is built as they open their minds and hearts to their fellow household members. CHURCH AND SACRAMENTS This is a whole-day. This teaches them to translate their Christian ideals and values into concrete advocacies. The What T he Household is the basic unit in the structure of Youth for Christ. a Household is finalized right after its members finishes the Youth Camp. 2. depending on the availability of the members. This is also seen as an evangelistic experience as well for the parents who are not yet members of CFC. ANNEX D THE YFC HOUSEHOLD TOPIC MANUAL GUIDE L. It is also a place for the members to deepen their relationship with God through prayer. understanding and better handling. given in a YFC member’s third year. and in listening to His’ messages for them. 3. The Purpose T his manual is designed to further affirm the value of fun. It is an activity where YFCs will learn how to make active stands as YFC in the society. with a brother and a sister leading respectively. tragedies and triumphs.66 basi c coupl e coor di nat o r s ’ tr a i n i n g m a n u a l enter into a camp with their own father/mother. worship. There are usually 4-7 members in one Household group. immersion-type activity. Mechanics These instruct us on how to go about the entire household by the detail. not weakness (Humility in accepting our own weaknesses) MODEL OF EXCELLENCE SELF-DEVELOPMENT Topic 28: One Track. I SEE… Title This is the topic stated in a simple yet catchy phrase. Value The is the main lesson that we want to impart to our YFC members. the readers must have already undergone the Household Leaders’ Training (HLT). The How This manual contains topic outlines that will guide us in the delivery of our chosen topic. These questions also pave the way for a deeper relationship of trust and openness within the Household. then a lifestyle. Topic 4: Ears of Joy (Humility and respect through listening Topic 27: Tattooed on my Mind (Loyalty to God) Objectives These give us a clear idea of what the main topic is trying to achieve. It encourages them to understand themselves better. Lessons These are what we want our members to hold on to by the end of the Household. Other Anchor Verses These support the Anchor Verse. Action Plans Our households do not necessarily end when we close it with a prayer. in order to fully maximize this manual. Guide Questions These bring out the youth’s inner thoughts and feelings about a particular topic. SELF-DISCOVERY Topic 5: Meekness. assisting them in applying it to their everyday lives. One Mind (Focus and Knowing one’s priorities) SELF-DUPLICATION Topic 50: On the Ground (Humility in being a good example to others) Topic 6: Silent Mode (Growing in our prayer time) Topic 29: Jack and Jill and their trades (Discovering and enhancing your gifts) Topic 51: Becoming the Gift (Sharing one’s life to others) Topic 7: Rabbit or Turtle (Focus and Determination) Topic 30: Rough Riders (Perseverance and Determination) Topic 52: Anything but Ordinary (Honesty. However. Trust. Each outline consists of the following elements: a n n ex d 69 3 Year Household Prayer Meeting Topics YEAR 1 ATTRACTION YEAR 2 SUSTAINABILITY YEAR 3 EMPOWERMENT FEEL LIKE JESUS MISSIONARY THINK LIKE JESUS LIVE LIKE JESUS Topic 1: You’re Invited (Eagerness to be part of the activities of our community) Topic 24: Exchange Gift (Openness to learn new things) Topic 47: It’s not about me (Total Reliance on God) Topic 2: When I’m with you (Living out the joy of prayer and worship) Topic 25: Send Me (Servanthood) Topic 48: Win (Courage and Boldness to proclaim God’s Word) Topic 49: Tell the World (Endurance in Mission) WHAT IN THE WORLD! OH. making their learning a habit. Action plans create opportunities for our members to apply what they have learned. and everlasting. Listening and Respect) Topic 8: Take the lead (Initiative and Perseverance) Topic 31: Even the Smallest Detail (Diligence and Endurance) LESS FOR SELF Topic 9: Nothing More (Contentment) CHAMPION OF THE POOR MORE FOR OTHERS Topic 32: Share a Load (Generosity) ENOUGH FOR ALL Topic 53: Mother Theresa: Hero of the Poor (Commitment and service to others) .basi c coupl e coor di nat o r s ’ tr a i n i n g m a n u a l 68 every Household will become a place of nourishment and fellowship for the members as they grow and tread the path of a good and happy Christian life. Topic 3: Take my hand (Trusting Others) Topic 26: Mission Possible (Creativity and Resourcefulness) Anchor Verse This reminds us that the topic is based on God’s Word. making it real. (God’s Appointed Protector) (Accountability in being guardians of unity in the home and in the family) . Trust.P.A. Vital Standards (Living out the Christian Lifestyle) Topic 61: I endure to be pure (Endurance to live a pure lifestyle) 100% FREE SINGLE MINDED FOR GOD SEARCH-IN SEEKING GOD’S WILL Topic 18: My Prayer Life (Growing in our prayer life) Topic 41: Will of God (Knowing God’s Will) Topic 19: S. Listening and Respect) Topic 67: G.T ME (Knowing Oneself) Topic 42: Cross Roads (Making Godly and loving decisions) EMBRACING VOCATION Topic 62: Next Attraction (Appreciating the life and mission of Singles for Christ) Topic 63: Standing Firm (Being firm in one’s own vocation) a n n ex d 71 Topic 20: See Me Through (Knowing oneself more through others) GOING BACK HOME Topic 64: Wait on the Lord (Patience in waiting for God’s plan to unfold in one’s life) Topic 43: Obedience Step by Step (Learning to purify one’s desires) SOURCE OF UNITY TO THE FAMILY I AM HOME UNITING HOME Topic 21: Picture Perfect (Appreciation of God’s plan for the family) Topic 44: Do you love me? (Patience and Perseverance in our family relationships) Topic 65: House Party (Understanding our Godgiven roles in the family) Topic 22: Forever Gift (Seeking the good in our own family) Topic 45: I Stand Corrected (Healing and Forgiveness) Topic 66: Family Portrait (Perseverance in witnessing to one’s own family) Topic 23: Somewhere Out There (Appreciating the bigger family of YFC and CFC) Topic 46: Care to Chat (Honesty.O.basi c coupl e coor di nat o r s ’ tr a i n i n g m a n u a l 70 Topic 10: Simply JC (Simplicity) Topic 33: Count me In (Compassion for brothers and sisters in need) Topic 54: Hands On Work (Servant Leadership) Topic 11: Genuine Love.W. talent and treasure) Topic 14: Live Out Loud (Excellence in serving others) Topic 37: Meal of Justice (Understanding the value of justice) Topic 58: You Complete Me (Being Patriots as a response to God’s faithfulness) YOU ARE SPECIAL TURNING POINT Topic 15: The Best Gift (Appreciating God’s Design) Topic 38: Hidden Charges (Building and having trust with one another) RISING FROM THE FALL Topic 59: Embrace the Broken (Compassion for others) Topic 16: A Matter of Integrity (Value of Honor and Integrity) Topic 39: Accountability Check (Accountability) Topic 60: Do IT! (Confidence to overcome temptation) Topic 17: He Recognized True Worth (Appreciating our Worth and Value as God’s Creation) Topic 40: Silly Rules vs. Genuine Service (Servanthood) Topic 34: All in One (Commitment in our work and mission with the poor) Topic 55: Generation Next (Making a difference) PATRIOTIC LOVING GOD’S PLAN HONORING YOUR ROOTS PASSION FOR SERVICE Topic 12: Be Loyal (Loyalty to our heritage and our roots) Topic 35: Live Simply (Living out our values as good citizens) Topic 56: One Love (Living together in Harmony and Peace) Topic 13: Color it Green (Respect for Culture and the Environment) Topic 36: Made to Be (Understanding God’s plan and purpose) Topic 57: “T” Share (Stewardship of one’s time. 5. Work together in asking the Household Heads about the immediate needs of their members. and in so doing provide an excellent and inspiring gathering for all your members. Ask God for the gift of discernment and then decide from the menu of topics listed in this manual. 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 TOPIC TITLE On Hands and Knees King’s Champion Heart of a Winner Burden for the Lost Mission Impossible Called to Serve Banquet of Love United in Christ A Piece of Heaven Stairway to Heaven Down to Earth Encounter to Remember Simon Peter Says Care Champ A Jesus Experience Standing in the Gap . Each chapter assembly is categorized into each of the 7 YFC ID’s. Go! Now that you’re well guided. Discern the Topic As Couple Coordinators and Youth Heads. Through this guide you can address their needs by selecting the appropriate topic in your next assembly. you should first know the needs of your YFC. Get Ready Once you have made your choice. Freedom. It serves as a source of nourishment and fellowship among YFC as they grow into the path of a good and happy Christian life. CHAMPION OF THE POOR No. and you will see a step-by-step instruction guide on how to go about with the topic for the assembly. ANNEX E THE YFC CHAPTER ASSEMBLY MANUAL TOPIC GUIDE The manual contains thirty-six (36) inspiring and nourishing topics that can serve as a guide in choosing the appropriate topics for the Chapter Assembly. check the table of contents. and Faith. Friendship. MISSIONARY MODEL OF EXCELLENCE 2. This is important so that you can prepare the necessary materials to make the topic effective for teaching and discussion. 4.a n n ex e 73 3. go to the page of your selected YFC ID and topic. get your act together and move into conquering more souls for God! Table of Contents YFC ID How to use the Manual 1. with at least 4 to 5 different topics for you to choose from. The manual is designed to further affirm the core principles of Fun. Check the Calendar Schedule and plan your Chapter Assembly ahead of time. Make the Choice Once you have an idea of what your members need. . Other Verses These supporting verses are suggested readings to further stress out clearer points about the topic being discussed. This allows you to talk about the topic in a clearer and expanded way. Objective This is what the topic aims to achieve. Anchor Verse This is Bible verse on which the main topic is anchored. Guide Questions These guide questions serve as a chance for the members to talk within their discussion group/Household about what they have learned from the topic. a n n ex e 75 Speaker/ Sharers Profile This is a clear description of the ideal people who can best discuss and share about the specific topic. YFC ID Each topic reflects the YFC identity that you can use to strengthen and discuss. Expanded Talk Outline This is the main message of the entire assembly. Dynamics This is the step-by-step flow of the selected topic for the assembly.basi c coupl e coor di nat o r s ’ tr a i n i n g m a n u a l 74 PATRIOT 100% FREE SINGLE-MINDED FOR GOD BEING A SOURCE OF UNITY TO THE FAMILY 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26 27 28 29 30 31 32 Keeper’s of Paradise On God’s Side Always Homeland The Patriot Created to Care Foundation 1: True Colors Foundation 2: Boy Meets Girl Is Vanity Fair Circle of Friends In Pursuit of the Purpose Body Builder A Heart Like This Following Christ A Special Meal Family Matters Amazing Love 33 Buddy Watch 34 Reaching Out 35 36 In the Midst of the Storm Family Strengths Session Description WHAT IS THERE? DESCRIPTION Title A one-liner phrase that will give you an idea of what the topic is all about. we allow YFC members to not only listen and talk to each other. Reflection Song/s Through the reflection song. but also to listen and talk to God. The talks in the second year of the Leaders Assembly Manual aim to teach the YFC leaders how to apply and embody the values of leadership in their own personal lives. Year 2. in their families. YFC leaders can follow the examples of Christ leadership in serving others. The People All the YFC leaders and YFC Couple Coordinators of your respective are all invited to attend this regular assembly. Ask God for the gift of discernment and then . friendship. etc. relationships. Check the calendar Schedule and plan your leader’s assembly ahead of time. Through these talks. Attendees for the Leader’s Assembly should have undergone the Leader’s Retreat. The Venue The venue of the leader’s assembly depends on the chosen topic. The Purpose Year 3. through their example. Work together in asking the household heads of the immediate needs of their members which you can address in preparing for the topic in your next assembly. Year 1-3 Progression of Talks How to Use the Leaders Assembly Manual Topic Guide A. classrooms. and in the community. As leaders in your respective area.a n n ex f 77 The YFC Leaders manual is a 3-year topic guide for the monthly leader’s assembly. The usual venues are parish halls. The talks in the third year of the Leaders Assembly Manual aim to encourage YFC leaders to also promote and be advocates of these leadership values to others.Leadership as Defined by Christ The talks in the first year of the Leaders Assembly Manual aim to strengthen the leadership values and qualities mirrored and shown by Christ Himself. but to also live out these values in all aspects of their lives. studies.Forming the Leader in You The Leaders Assembly is a gathering of all YFC leaders that occur regularly once a month. ANNEX F THE YFC LEADERS ASSEMBLY MANUAL TOPIC GUIDE The What Year 1. This manual contains 36 inspiring and nourishing topics. There are 12 talks per year that we can use for the next three years. freedom and faith. clubhouses. not just on how they serve as leaders in YFC. an empowerment retreat for new YFC leaders in the area. This is important so that you can provide an excellent and inspiring gathering for all your leaders. B. you will be the best persons to know the needs of your leaders. Discern the topic As Couple Coordinators and Youth leaders.Bringing Out Chrsit’s Leadership in Others The manual is designed to further affirm the value of fun. The talks were written in order to strengthen the different leadership values and characters that need to be developed and strengthened by a true YFC Christian leader. you are free to choose and discern the ideal and appropriate venue for your activity. YFC leaders can learn these leadership values. It serves as a venue for nourishment and fellowship among YFC leaders as they grow into the path of a good and happy Christian life. Through these talks. how they can also embrace these values and be able to live them out. These talks will allow YFC leaders to be God’s instruments in teaching others. Go! Now that you’re well guided. Each leaders’ assembly is categorized into each of the YFC IDs. Get ready Once you have made your choice. Value and topic and you will see a step-by-step instruction on how to go about the assembly. get your act together and move into conquering more souls for God! Leaders Assembly Manual Topic YFC IDENTITY YEAR 1 TOPIC TITLES YEAR 2 TOPIC TITLES YEAR 3 TOPIC TITLES Prints of Humility A Sinner to Saint Ready to Be Sent Eyes of God In Me Faithfully Yours You Got Served MODEL OF EXCELLENCE In His Steps Rated-E Fuel For Passion Cut Above E-Witness Build ‘Em Up CHAMPION OF THE POOR For King and Country Giving Like Jesus Dare to Be a Hero PATRIOT Loving Like Jesus Stand Our Ground My Country’s Keeper The Power Within Brave Heart Free to Lead Father’s Gaze Dare to Be Live Free Single Minded Disciple Greatest of Them Footprints of Christ Battle Within Solid Ground Finding the Treasure Just Like Ruth Family First Family Service House Rules Parental Guidance Say a Little Prayer MISSIONARY 100% FREE SINGLE MINDED FOR GOD SOURCE IN UNITY IN THE FAMILY . E. D. go to the page of your selected YFC ID.basi c coupl e coor di nat o r s ’ tr a i n i n g m a n u a l 78 decide from the menu of topic listed in this manual. C. Make the choice Once you have an idea on what your members need. check the table of contents. 2. What should you do. You are a YFC who is having hesitations or doubts of moving on to Singles For Christ (SFC). You are a YFC brother who is asking permission to court/have a date with a YFC sister. You are a YFC brother who is having 100% FREE issues (e. ANNEX G SITUATIONS FOR THE ONE-ON-ONE WORKSHOP The following are some of the situations or roles that YFC members can play in the triad workshop of conducting one-on-ones: 1.a n n ex g 81 weakness. and ask help with your discernment. They are not CFC. Because of this. and arguments that you always hear at home. or smoking.). 5. 6. You are a YFC who is having a hard time in passing school. You are thinking of running away from home and staying over with your friends to escape the everyday troubles. 3. 7. Ask help and advice from your CC on what you should do to overcome your . You are a YFC whose parents are not open for you to be active in YFC. you are thinking of leaving your service in YFC and becoming inactive for the next few months. Consult your Couple Coordinator (CC) on what you should do.). fights. etc? 4. Ask your CC for advice. You do not know how to open this up to your parents because you are afraid that they will not give you their blessing. You are a YFC who is currently facing a very big family problem: your parents are about to break up. You are a YFC leader who is discerning to go into Fulltime Pastoral Work after graduating from school. or drinking. etc. addicted to masturbation.g. They are in fact discouraging you and pushing you to leave the community because of the bad things that they have been hearing about YFC. the members are old. You are still very eager to serve in YFC and you are afraid to transition to the next ministry because of the negative rumors you have heard about it (SFC is boring. etc. ”. The worship leader will express his gratefulness to God for the many blessings and graces. This is where we honor God and acknowledge His greatness. Short Prayer 4. 6. 11. 12. As St. Concluding prayer .” We can jump and dance like David as he celebrated God’s love in the book of Psalms. In glorifying Him we sing songs of praise and worship. “I belong to you. This is the part where the worship leader or an assigned person will read the Gospel. Exhortation 2. he can recite a few specifically. We can raise our hands as we surrender our lives in prayer. Gospel Reading and Prophecy. Singing in the Spirit. Worship Format The following is the usual format of worship: 1. Stating our Petitions. The worship leader will encourage the participants to use the Gift of Tongues. Slow song 9. The worship leader will lift up personal concerns and requests to God. 13. Simultaneous Praising. my life is yours…. ANNEX H WORSHIP What is Worship? W orship is being able to come before the presence of God. First fast song 5. and that we are created to worship and glorify Him. Worship is when we start to say how we feel and when we begin to truly realize God’s greatness. which is God’s word for the day. saying. Sign of the Cross 3. Thanksgiving Prayer. Second fast song 7. 10. Augustine once said. it is being able to acknowledge that he alone is GOD.a n n ex h 83 8. In this level. people start to “offer” themselves to God. Simultaneous Worship. “He who sings prays twice. Praising might be likened as “introductions” in any audience. and Chapter Couple Coordinators and youth heads (1 brother. f. The number of program . Refer to diagram below. 1 sister). Every province’s YFC full structure consists of: a. The basic structure for school-based programs (Campus Based and High School Based Programs) consists of Program Volunteers (youth heads). Provincial Couple Coordinator. THE YFC AREA LEVELS OF GROWTH AND STRUCTURE d. Each program has determined a structure to follow (refer to diagram below) but has also set certain provisions to consider at whatever level the province may be in. Every level of the structure must follow the CFC structure of the area. Each program also has a basic structure to aid it in its specific missions. Initially. 1 sister) under the sector level. assigned to head and develop the YFC programs). Once the ministry starts to grow. and this couple represents YFC as one of the Family Ministries of the province. a. whose primary role is to oversee the proper implementation of each YFC program in the province. b. and implementation of direction as per advised by the International Program Heads (Full-time Pastoral Workers based in Manila. The Community Based Program has Sector Couple Coordinators and youth heads (1 brother. Provincial Program Couple Coordinators – assigned to each YFC program. The Provincial Program Couple Coordinators and their youth counterparts form the Provincial Core Group. growth. having their households in mainstream CFC. e. together with the Provincial Youth Heads (1 brother. especially when programs are still being established in an area. YFC Full Structure for Provinces 1. are under the PCC functionally. the province starts at a basic structure – that is. Under the Provincial Couple Coordinator (PCC) are the Provincial Program Couple Coordinators. The Provincial Couple Coordinator is the head of YFC. Diagram 1: Full-blown Provincial Top-level Structure Provincial Set-Up T he organizational structure of YFC Philippine Missions follows the structure of the CFC in the province. b. a household-level structure – wherein the toplevel youth leaders are pastored by the PCC while the CCs of any starting program. 1 sister). 1 sister). The Program Couple Coordinator and youth 2. 1 sister) under the cluster level. the PCC is the pastoral head of the provincial core youth leaders while the provincial core couple coordinators have their household in mainstream CFC. In terms of pastoral structure. Cluster Couple Coordinators and youth heads (1 brother. ANNEX I c. Each School Based Program may have several program volunteers as deemed necessary. together with youth heads (1 brother. the provincial set-up may develop into a full structure. The Provincial Core Group functionally reports to the PCC with details regarding their respective programs.a n n ex i 85 heads oversee the program of the entire province in terms of activities. c. Levels of Growth Note: This focuses on the levels of growth of a province in terms of structure. cluster. Diagram 2: Full-blown Provincial Top-level Structure with Basic Program Structure Expansion and Provisions in the Structure for Provinces Once a province starts to progress in its mission. chapter. f. Here are specific guidelines we need to know. Expansion/s for community-based and Torch program follows the CFC structure of the area. refer to the program manuals) g. (For details on the pastoral structure per program. certain provisions in the structure may be made. . if the PCC and Provincial Program Coordinators deem it necessary. as Couples for Christ. program volunteers handle 2-3 schools provided that the schools are geographically near each other and provided that the PV’s availability is taken into consideration. For school-based programs (Campus Based and High School Based). Program Volunteers are assigned on a per school-basis while in Campus Based program. Any expansion and/or provision in the structure will be horizontally and downward – meaning. may assign couple coordinators under each program vis-a-vis the need/ goal/growth of the program. 3. YCOM program has Group Heads and a pool of talents under each group called the YCOM crew. NOT into the top level structure but at the levels below them. and Household Heads under the sector level. d. For High School based Program.volunteers depends on the need/goal set by the province as well as the availability of youth volunteers. 1. The PCC. 1 sister). have their household in mainstream CFC.1: (This diagram shows that there’s more than 1 sector. Any provision in the structure must be guided by the structure determined for each program (refer to previous diagrams). and several number of PVs in an area) 4. e. taking into consideration also the availability of manpower for every position added in the structure. Refer to the diagram below. Torch program has Sector Couple Coordinators and youth heads (1 brother. together with Provincial Program Coordinator. people and/or positions may be added. Detailed Diagram 2. Any addition of people/position must still be according to the set structure for each level/program. coordinators are assigned under the Provincial Program Couple Coordinators to help them either in sustaining the existing campuses/high schools or in opening new campuses/high schools. The coordinators serve as the pastoral heads of the youth while they. 2. 8. Depending on the PCC and Provincial Program Coordinators’ strategy. 5. Diagram 3: Full-blown Provincial Structure 1. 6. Specifics about Program Area Coordinators and Youth heads may be read in their respective Program Manuals. several Program Area Coordinators and youth heads may be assigned. Each program has activities that happen independently of other programs. Program Area Youth heads may be assigned as partners to Program Area Couple Coordinators. However. they may be identified to a sector where they fall in geographically) for mobilization and representation purposes. Further expansion for the YCOM program is on the level of talent pools (YCOM Crew). considering the proximity or the geographical location of these schools. For areas that still do not have program area coordinators.Such coordinators will be called Program Area Coordinators (Campus Area Coordinator/High School Area Coordinator). Program Area Coordinators (Campus Area Coordinator/High School Area Coordinator) are called such since they will be assigned to oversee campus/es or high school/s in a specific area through the Program Volunteers. Program Volunteers may still aid in the mission. schools/campuses may have a sector identity (that is. Diagram 4: Full-blown Provincial Structure with Expanded Provision on Program Structure . 7. Refer to diagram below.